dialectic
Member
hi boys and girls,
lately i've been falling into the same behavioural pattern with the opposite sex. i will meet a lovely guy and grow fond of him and enjoy his company thuroughly - until we get cosier and kiss. suddenly i feel suffocated in his presence and loose all romantic interest in him fearing further intimacy. i don't want any tenderness to be exchanged, don't want to give myself away or for him to 'posses me'. i haven't been sexually attracted to any of the men i dated.
on the other hand i find myself perving at guys all the time and fantasising. my body is definately trying to tell me something. yet i'm not willing to have casual 'hook ups', can't get involved in meaningless things.
i just feel like i'm stuck in a frustrating loop of unfulfilled desires and massive intimacy issues.
any input appreciated
lately i've been falling into the same behavioural pattern with the opposite sex. i will meet a lovely guy and grow fond of him and enjoy his company thuroughly - until we get cosier and kiss. suddenly i feel suffocated in his presence and loose all romantic interest in him fearing further intimacy. i don't want any tenderness to be exchanged, don't want to give myself away or for him to 'posses me'. i haven't been sexually attracted to any of the men i dated.
on the other hand i find myself perving at guys all the time and fantasising. my body is definately trying to tell me something. yet i'm not willing to have casual 'hook ups', can't get involved in meaningless things.
i just feel like i'm stuck in a frustrating loop of unfulfilled desires and massive intimacy issues.
any input appreciated