I guess what I'm saying is that the fact that 95 percent would say it is better to l have a partner doesn't really mean much to me.
I agree with this. Especially for those that consistently get into bad relationships i.e. people in abusive relationships tend to continue to find themselves in abusive relationships or they're afraid to leave, and one of the bigger reasons is they don't want to be alone - Idk about anyone else but I'd rather spend my life alone than spend it with someone who beats me up and makes me afraid of living. Just one example.
Here's my viewpoint - why are most people in a relationship? Why do they WANT to be in a relationship? So they can be loved and have someone to love, right? So they can have someone to be happier with and share lovely moments and memories, right? Well, what's the point of being in a relationship if you're in one that essentially does none of those things? Why be in a relationship that's more of a hassle than a joy and that just drags you down? What's the point of having someone if that someone doesn't make you feel more complete? For people who've never had a relationship, or have only had 1 or 2 short ones, I know this seems trivial and they may not realize it, but being in a bad relationship doesn't just affect one part of you that you can ignore because "at least you have someone" It consumes all of you, body, mind, and soul, and it REALLY drags you down and it steals your life away. I know it sounds like I'm exaggerating but I swear to everything that I'm telling the truth down to every word.
Also, I agree that it's incredibly selfish to stay with someone you don't love just because you don't want to be alone. I keep imagining what would happen if my bf suddenly told me that the only reason we're together is because he doesn't want to be alone and I was the best he could get (although there are girls he'd like better). I would be crushed. I mean
crushed. You might as well take my self esteem, ball it up, line it with my heart, set it on fire, and throw it into a pile of manure.