Just need one friend!
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abc1234
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Yeah it sure does suck.Im probably gona end up being alone and lonely for pretty much my whole life.Even if i wasnt shy Id still have a hard time making friends im a super self conscience person.And tell my self that im not good enough for people or that they wouldnt like me anyway so why bother.Its a real shitty thing to be so negative but ive done i for so long,that i dont know how to do otherwise.
themousethatroared
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I try not to dwell on past difficuties with interactions with people on-line or in person. I have had my share of disapointments that I would like to forget but I have made at least one friend on-line and for that I count myself lucky. I will try to put the disapointments behind me and not let it poison me. If I dwell on the negative then I will not see what is positive. I would like to say that I do not dwell on the negative but I do. Hopefully I will get better at focusing on the bright side.
bimbo45 said:
Yeah, i understand you, i have had a few "bad" chat experiences wtih people i met from this site. But i was not pissed off or anything, its just we both had nothing to say, lol. It was like:
Me: How old r u?
Him: 23 u?
Me: cool :roll: , im 22 ...
-----------------------5 mins of silence-----------------
Him: So what do you like?
Me: Hmmm...i dont know... (conversation killer
)----------------------10 mins of silence----------------
Me: So what did you do today?
Him: Not much... (another conversation killer)
-----------End of conversation---------
I used to think, id be easier for me to chat with someone from this site, well apperantly its not.
bimbo45
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Y said:bimbo45 said:
Yeah, i understand you, i have had a few "bad" chat experiences wtih people i met from this site. But i was not pissed off or anything, its just we both had nothing to say, lol. It was like:I know exactley what you mean! I have had the same problem with people on this site.
It definatley is not easy!.
Me: How old r u?
Him: 23 u?
Me: cool :roll: , im 22 ...
-----------------------5 mins of silence-----------------
Him: So what do you like?
Me: Hmmm...i dont know... (conversation killer
----------------------10 mins of silence----------------
Me: So what did you do today?
Him: Not much... (another conversation killer)
-----------End of conversation---------
I used to think, id be easier for me to chat with someone from this site, well apperantly its not.
bimbo45
Well-known member
Y said:bimbo45 said:
Yeah, i understand you, i have had a few "bad" chat experiences wtih people i met from this site. But i was not pissed off or anything, its just we both had nothing to say, lol. It was like:
Me: How old r u?
Him: 23 u?
Me: cool :roll: , im 22 ...
-----------------------5 mins of silence-----------------
Him: So what do you like?
Me: Hmmm...i dont know... (conversation killer
----------------------10 mins of silence----------------
Me: So what did you do today?
Him: Not much... (another conversation killer)
-----------End of conversation---------
I used to think, id be easier for me to chat with someone from this site, well apperantly its not.
xkiss_me_nowx
Well-known member
oh i know ive had that. so annoying.
but luckily one or two people on here ive met are good talkers.. so the conv didnt run dry haha.
but luckily one or two people on here ive met are good talkers.. so the conv didnt run dry haha.
bimbo45 said:Y said:bimbo45 said:
Yeah, i understand you, i have had a few "bad" chat experiences wtih people i met from this site. But i was not pissed off or anything, its just we both had nothing to say, lol. It was like:I know exactley what you mean! I have had the same problem with people on this site.
It definatley is not easy!.
Me: How old r u?
Him: 23 u?
Me: cool :roll: , im 22 ...
-----------------------5 mins of silence-----------------
Him: So what do you like?
Me: Hmmm...i dont know... (conversation killer
----------------------10 mins of silence----------------
Me: So what did you do today?
Him: Not much... (another conversation killer)
-----------End of conversation---------
I used to think, id be easier for me to chat with someone from this site, well apperantly its not.
Lol, if you remember the conversation from above, it may be me who you talked, :lol: World is small...
random
Well-known member
At some point I had benefited from the counseling I was receiving but couldn't make myself 'practice' at social events like the counselor wanted me to so I quit. I told myself I would never get over it and would just get used to it. Quietly I began to project how negative my future would be - I would be completely isolated and no one would talk to me and I pictured the years ahead exactly the same.
Then - I had a very real panic attack. My first full fledged I-MUST-BE-DYING-RIGHT-NOW panic attack. This was new - I had always been an introvert and didn't know I knew how to have a panic attack but I picked it up quickly.
The way I calmed myself that night was to tell myself that even though I am always saying that things won't change, my life will always be like this etc., there's no way I could predict the future and it doesn't HAVE to be the negative way I picture it. I would calm down then panic, calm down then panic. Each time I was able to calm down by saying something like "Yeah the past is bad but that doesn't mean the future has to be" or "Well yeah I am picturing a difficult life but I have never been able to predict the future before" or "It doesn't HAVE to be the negative way I picture it." And I got back into counseling - and I am relieved. I have quite a habit of predicting a permanent negative future and I am working to break it. The full panic attacks are gone and now I sometimes have low watt anxiety in the middle of the night...and I am hot on the trail of getting rid of those too.
Then - I had a very real panic attack. My first full fledged I-MUST-BE-DYING-RIGHT-NOW panic attack. This was new - I had always been an introvert and didn't know I knew how to have a panic attack but I picked it up quickly.
The way I calmed myself that night was to tell myself that even though I am always saying that things won't change, my life will always be like this etc., there's no way I could predict the future and it doesn't HAVE to be the negative way I picture it. I would calm down then panic, calm down then panic. Each time I was able to calm down by saying something like "Yeah the past is bad but that doesn't mean the future has to be" or "Well yeah I am picturing a difficult life but I have never been able to predict the future before" or "It doesn't HAVE to be the negative way I picture it." And I got back into counseling - and I am relieved. I have quite a habit of predicting a permanent negative future and I am working to break it. The full panic attacks are gone and now I sometimes have low watt anxiety in the middle of the night...and I am hot on the trail of getting rid of those too.