B-girl
Member
Hi everyone I'm new to this site and needed some advice. I'm not diagonsed (sp?) with SA because i have not gone to the doctor but have most of the symptoms. All my life i have had negative thoughts, anixety and only realized it as i got older because when you are young of course you are not able to realize things like that. At first I thought i was just depressed some sort of chemical imbalance or something but as I kept researching about depression it didn't sound like me. You see those people had voices, they had lives i feel like i don't.
I feel so ashamed of myself because i can NEVER start a conversation, i feel like i can NEVER have fun, i feel like I don't have a personality, i can't make phone calls, i can't speak my mind, when people say "oh you look so pretty" i just smile like an idiot. when guys give me compliments i smile and shyly walk away acting like i'm busy. I can never be the center of attention i have dreams of having a beautiful, huge wedding but how?? i can't take attention and its heart breaking
I have so many dreams of having a wonderful husband, having wonderful relationships but how can i? it just doesn't seem fair to me for anyone to have this its so frustrating and i can't take it anymore. I have a great big family lots of cousins, aunts & uncles they have lots of parties all fun but i can no longer go i can't have a converstation with my own aunts who i've known all my life, my best friends (who on my lowest days i wonder how i got) i can't even talk to being the real me anymore. Its so :x oh it just makes me so MAD! all my life i've been nice but lately i have realized you know what i'm being too nice just so they won't get mad and i won't have to fight i've never been a fighter but it feels FAKE and i cannot stand FAKE.
I've always thought something was missing in my life and couldn't put my finger on it if i do have SA i will put all my faith and hard work into overcoming it. I want to have fun, reach out to others and learn from my experiences. but most of all i want to feel like i'm normal too which is a big task which i'm willing to tackle. I also had a question on whether or not SA was genetic i think my dad has SA acts exactly like i do its like a mirror image. I think a lot of his frustration comes out in anger and over the years i have finally been able to understand him and I.
Thank you for listening hope i make some sense!
luv b-girl
I feel so ashamed of myself because i can NEVER start a conversation, i feel like i can NEVER have fun, i feel like I don't have a personality, i can't make phone calls, i can't speak my mind, when people say "oh you look so pretty" i just smile like an idiot. when guys give me compliments i smile and shyly walk away acting like i'm busy. I can never be the center of attention i have dreams of having a beautiful, huge wedding but how?? i can't take attention and its heart breaking
I have so many dreams of having a wonderful husband, having wonderful relationships but how can i? it just doesn't seem fair to me for anyone to have this its so frustrating and i can't take it anymore. I have a great big family lots of cousins, aunts & uncles they have lots of parties all fun but i can no longer go i can't have a converstation with my own aunts who i've known all my life, my best friends (who on my lowest days i wonder how i got) i can't even talk to being the real me anymore. Its so :x oh it just makes me so MAD! all my life i've been nice but lately i have realized you know what i'm being too nice just so they won't get mad and i won't have to fight i've never been a fighter but it feels FAKE and i cannot stand FAKE.
I've always thought something was missing in my life and couldn't put my finger on it if i do have SA i will put all my faith and hard work into overcoming it. I want to have fun, reach out to others and learn from my experiences. but most of all i want to feel like i'm normal too which is a big task which i'm willing to tackle. I also had a question on whether or not SA was genetic i think my dad has SA acts exactly like i do its like a mirror image. I think a lot of his frustration comes out in anger and over the years i have finally been able to understand him and I.
Thank you for listening hope i make some sense!
luv b-girl