aligurl09
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Hey people. I am 19 years old. As of right now I don't feel extremely depressed, but I would say that I am not currently happy or satisfied with my life. I feel like I just do things and go along with life just to keep other people happy or because I feel as though I have to do it and it is the thing to do. I graduated high school June 2004. As far as my plans for college, I never really did much thinking about where I wanted to go or what I honestly wanted to do. My parents did not put much pressure on me about anything. On the otherhand my grandparents felt as though they needed to be a part of everything. My grandfather used to be a college professor.. and English professor and wanted me to be and English major as well. Possibly even go into education. I did not even know what I wanted to do because I felt as though I was never allowed to think for myself or able to make my own decisions. The summer of 2003 before I entered senior year.. we did tons of traveling and college visiting. Mostly schools I was told to visit.. not schools in which I had a chance to sit down and think about what I wanted and if it was the place for me. So into senior year it came time to apply and figure out where to go. It was not a positive experience for me. Here is why.. i had so much anxiety over the fact that I was getting pressured to apply to a certain number of schools as well as certain schools. My grandfather just did not know when to stop. He always said that he had experience, which is true.. but I want to live my own life. Anways.. I applied to four schools. I got into 3 out of the 4. Also, I was offered scholarships to 2 of them. My grandfather has his heart set on the one I was not offered a scholarship. That wasn't a problem for me.. scholarship or not I had to choose the right one. He thought that one was the right one. Deep down I didn't but time came to choose and I felt rushed and confused and just wanted it all to be over so I just went along with it to make people happy and I didnt even really care either way because I wasn't even sure I liked the others schools I got into. Well.. then I graduate, spend the summer with my hs friends... then its time for college. I didn't want to go. I was confused and told my family I wanted time off to figure everything out.. but it turned into a family fight. My grandparents were screaming at me and thought I need professional help. All in all.. I took the first semester off to figure out what I wanted. Then... for the spring semester I registered to one of the schools that offered me a scholarship and I commuted. I got A's and B's for spring semester and I decided to go there on my own, but my hs friends don't even know that I took the first semester off. It is a huge secret I have to hide from them. Only close family knows... and some family friends along with two friends who didnt go to my hs. The spring semester just flew by and I enjoyed it but I didn't really make any friends. Yeah, lots of new people to talk to, but in the end nobody I am going to keep in touch with. So now.. I am on summer break. My hs friends are home. Some of them. a few are taking summer classes at their schools. I decided to work with a friend.. and I start tomorrow but I didnt even wanna work in the first place. So now I guess I am stuck with the stupid job. What is the point of my post? The point is this~ I am not happy with anything. I don't know what I want to major in, I am tired of being confined to hs friends who make me miserable. I don't even know if the college I am going to is for me or if I am just going there becuase I know I need to go to school and my family pushed me.. I don't know. I am so confused and unhappy. I feel like something is missing. I do not have enjoyment like I used to have with certain friends. I feel like I am just going through the motions of life and doing what is expected out of me. I thought about majoring in psyc.. but I realized I don't really wanna do that. I love writing. SO MUCH, but I don't have confidence, I don't think I am a good enough writer to do anything with that so it is holding me back. I just feel in general.. that I am not happy... something is missing and I feel down and bored with everything. My hs friends... they can be annoying. Why? Just because when I am around them I feel like I am being held back. I hate it. I need new experiences and new people in my life not the same old stuff. I don't want to be confined to this. I feel empty inside.. I am not having a life thats fullfilling as of right now. What am I suppossed to do? And I don't wanna work tomorrow I never wanted to work there it was just something to do.. ya know going through the motions again. Ugh. There are other issues going on in my head. my other grandfather died when I was in 9th grade and I never really dealt with it. I ran away from the problem. Avoided the whole entire situation. It was my way of coping. Sometimes i wonder if i am over it.. considering the fact that i never dealt with it in the first place. I tried to be as strong as i could and hide my feelings inside.. I never wanted anyone in my family to know how I was feeling inside I was afraid of being upset.. and afraid of being afraid of his illness. I also think I am not over it because sometimes I think about how things changed and I found myself crying about his death. That was 4 years ago.. and I am just crying about it now? What is wrong with me? I never went to his funeral by the way.. but have been to his grave with family.. but maybe I never got closure? I don't know. I added that part to my post because it goes along with my feeling of emptiness. Another thing.. when I was younger.. I loved to write... to sing.. to listen to music.. I had passions in life, now i don't have anything to look foward to. I do not have onfidence to write or to do anything I love anymore. My best friend, we have been friends since we were 5... told me she thought I wasnt passinate about anything anymore and was wondering why. she knew about the college situation.. and my other friend.. he knew about it too but none of my other friends know and I guess its like this.. they would judge me negatively and my real friends.. they didnt. they wanted to help and support me. they understood me .. whereas these hs friends never would. and never do. i feel down and dont feel like im living. Help.