Ladyk
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Hi
I'm 29 and have been married to a lovely man for just over a year. We have been together for over 4 years. He's never been one for socialising much, he doesn't drink and he doesn't enjoy going to pubs. But we have always enjoyed going out for meals either with friends or on our own. For some reason, over the past 6 months, everytime we make arrangements to go out for a meal he has a panic attack and we end up having to cancel or having to come home early.
We went to Scotland for our first wedding anniversary, it was going to be so romantic, we were staying in a castle and had a beautiful suite overlooking the hills. He was fine up until the point that we went down to eat dinner and then he had one of his attacks, which leave him exhausted and feeling ill for at least a day. Unfortunately we had to come home the next day.
This weekend we'd planned to meet friends at a restaurant for a meal, but he started feeling shakey and sick earlier that afternoon and by the time we'd arrived at the car park he couldn't even stand up! He was struggling to breath, sweating, shaking and couldn't face going any further.
The strange thing is that he works full-time and has a very responsible job. He is ok to go for lunch with suppliers and he enjoys going karting with friends. It seems to be only when we go out for an evening meal together.
We don't do much as a couple, and meals out were the one thing we enjoyed together. It's hard not to get angry with him as I feel as though he doesn't want to go out with me.
How can I deal with this situation in a way to help him? I have been to the doctor with him who was useless and just gave him a leaflet to read. It had somne self-help exercises on, but they have made no difference. In fact, I would say he's got increasingley worse!
Any ideas?
Thanks!
Kay
I'm 29 and have been married to a lovely man for just over a year. We have been together for over 4 years. He's never been one for socialising much, he doesn't drink and he doesn't enjoy going to pubs. But we have always enjoyed going out for meals either with friends or on our own. For some reason, over the past 6 months, everytime we make arrangements to go out for a meal he has a panic attack and we end up having to cancel or having to come home early.
We went to Scotland for our first wedding anniversary, it was going to be so romantic, we were staying in a castle and had a beautiful suite overlooking the hills. He was fine up until the point that we went down to eat dinner and then he had one of his attacks, which leave him exhausted and feeling ill for at least a day. Unfortunately we had to come home the next day.
This weekend we'd planned to meet friends at a restaurant for a meal, but he started feeling shakey and sick earlier that afternoon and by the time we'd arrived at the car park he couldn't even stand up! He was struggling to breath, sweating, shaking and couldn't face going any further.
The strange thing is that he works full-time and has a very responsible job. He is ok to go for lunch with suppliers and he enjoys going karting with friends. It seems to be only when we go out for an evening meal together.
We don't do much as a couple, and meals out were the one thing we enjoyed together. It's hard not to get angry with him as I feel as though he doesn't want to go out with me.
How can I deal with this situation in a way to help him? I have been to the doctor with him who was useless and just gave him a leaflet to read. It had somne self-help exercises on, but they have made no difference. In fact, I would say he's got increasingley worse!
Any ideas?
Thanks!
Kay