MRnomates said:
Do most of you get extremly stupidly nervous when you go out for no reason i know i do i don't know why i do?
The reason you get nervous is right there. Just look a bit further in your mind and you will find it.
Look at it this way, when you first learned to swim, you did get nervous right?
Why??? Because you said to yourself that you would drown, gulp water, etc....
But as you learned, your anxiety diminished till it was gone. WHy???? Because you replaced those thoughts with ones that said you could do it...
SA is the same. When you go out, you are telling yourself that you are not capable of social interaction with words like: i am no good, i am an idiot, no one likes me, etc....... Then your body reacts to this perceived danger by releasing adrenaline this causing you to be nervous.
Now the key is to first diminish these negative thoughts, and then replace them with more positive thoughts and i can guarantee, you will get better.
But this won't happen overnight. It will take a couple of months of your time and dedication to accomplish this. Be patient.