Not good enough?
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Tryin
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Here. I really wish to be a psychotherapist. (Imagine all the social contact.) And an author. (A good author, writing and selling good stuff. Consuming, duh?)
Don't really know if I am good enough. But I am going to give it a try. (For the hell of it, am I going to give it a try!)
Don't really know if I am good enough. But I am going to give it a try. (For the hell of it, am I going to give it a try!)
Foxglove
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I'm way too old to be thinking about starting my "dream career", but I always wanted to work with animals. Being a caretaker in a zoo would be so wonderful, or maybe an animal researcher like Jane Goodall. I would find being a forest ranger appealing, too. That would be paradise for me -- no people, just animals and nature and freedom.
emmdee
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Tryin - That's great, i wish you luck, when your book is published i'm so reading it....psychotherapist sounds great too. Maybe you should treat me.
Rubius - How do you know that? Just like you said...try to do it.
DH - Definately true.
Foxglove - I love animals. You're never too old to start thinking about it either - just do it for the hell of it.
Zeroday, my dream career is to be either a graphic designer, or to work in the film industry as something. What about you?
Rubius - How do you know that? Just like you said...try to do it.
DH - Definately true.
Foxglove - I love animals. You're never too old to start thinking about it either - just do it for the hell of it.
Zeroday, my dream career is to be either a graphic designer, or to work in the film industry as something. What about you?
rubius
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I did try. Although it wasn't my dream job it was a successful career. I tried to go for several years before I finally accepted the truth. I hope with the therapy I am finally getting that I will be able to do a job I like. Or at least one I don't hate. If I can do that some day maybe I will search for a dream job, but I have to be aware of my limitations and accept them. Oh, and my dream job would be a video game designer. 
Broken_Memory
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I've always wanted to work with animals, but I definitely feel like ... well, like my social phobia would hold me back so much. Even with starting out, like just volunteering/co-op/part-time, I feel like I'd just be too afraid to take any initiative, for anything. Right now I work part time (I'm still in high school because I've been stalling - university/college wise) at a vet clinic as a dog walker, but I'm much too shy to be around any of the people that work there. Its been over a year and a half, too.
About not feeling good enough, yeah, I compare myself to the people who have gone through the schooling and are successful and I think "I could never be like them, they're so social and confident".
About not feeling good enough, yeah, I compare myself to the people who have gone through the schooling and are successful and I think "I could never be like them, they're so social and confident".
nandito
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I started to think about that at the end of my bachelor. I'm always being a guy with too much worries. I always thought I won't get a PhD offer in sciences (you get scholarships when you are accepted in most institutions around the world).
But I did succeed getting an offer, now, finishing my PhD I started to have same feelings about staying in academia. But this time they are more realistic. I know I can get a research assistantship, but the problems is getting an stable job, cause you need to be a top scientist to get one, and I'm clearly not.
I guess my case is too much worries not that much about social anxiety, but once I start to thinking too much about it, I start to talk less with people, hiding myself from shame, etc.
Te truth is, people do not care (except family, and close friends) about what we do. We have to do things for us, even if they seem complicated at times. In the past few years I've forced myself to organize better my time so I can study, work, cook, read, have fun, etc.
Try to see your life since a 3rd person reference, you'll find out that there are worries that are ok and realistic, but a lot of others don't. Write down them in a paper, and the arguments why they are real or not. So next time you get those ideas again, you know which are realistic ones, and which are just exaggerations.
Cheers.
But I did succeed getting an offer, now, finishing my PhD I started to have same feelings about staying in academia. But this time they are more realistic. I know I can get a research assistantship, but the problems is getting an stable job, cause you need to be a top scientist to get one, and I'm clearly not.
I guess my case is too much worries not that much about social anxiety, but once I start to thinking too much about it, I start to talk less with people, hiding myself from shame, etc.
Te truth is, people do not care (except family, and close friends) about what we do. We have to do things for us, even if they seem complicated at times. In the past few years I've forced myself to organize better my time so I can study, work, cook, read, have fun, etc.
Try to see your life since a 3rd person reference, you'll find out that there are worries that are ok and realistic, but a lot of others don't. Write down them in a paper, and the arguments why they are real or not. So next time you get those ideas again, you know which are realistic ones, and which are just exaggerations.
Cheers.
Tryin
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I feel not good enough for ANY carrer
I already posted on this, but here I am months later with the experience of a few jobs behind me and want to share again.
I work at a homeless shelter and as a therapist/playmate of an autistic child (volunteering) and I also have a paid job at a fastfood.
I feel totally unsuficient.
For the past few days I am obsessing about me going to get kicked out of the autism therapy program. That's not going to happen. People that I do it for are of a very sweet and loving kind (at least they are trying to be??) and they are not kicking me out by any chance. I think. Well, at least they say so
I was oh-so-surprised when they hired me at the fastfood. I am also oh-so-surprised every time when I go there and do my work and realize that they actually are satisfied with my work and that they are actually paying me for it.
I think that I do a good job with my little autist. I love the kid. But I am avoidant (much more that I am in other situations) with his parents and other volunteers and I've gotten panic attacs (that I didn't manage to control) every time I tried to talk with them about my problems (I wanted to make it clear that I am not having any problems, that I am not unhappy or crazy or anything but that I am a normalmensch with some anxiety and deralization going on... but I somehow always end up mute, blushing and in tears). Big deal.
As for the homeless shelter... it's always the same. I AM useful, people DO behave nicely to me, but I am still pushed into the old role of a little helpless "cute" weak girl.
I feel I am not good enough. It's all in my head, and that's the big deal.
Wish I were able to make people treat me with more respect, though... More that my self-deprecation I am troubled by people trying to save me... adjusting their behaviour so as to not "hurt" me... labelling me with "fragile - do not touch" or "a kid - be a christian and treat her nicely" or even "strange - beware".
People at work, in school, everywhere always call me Susie.
I hate that.
So am I off-topic?
Shutting up.
Love to everyone reading this site. Fucking lots of love. We all need it.
S.
I already posted on this, but here I am months later with the experience of a few jobs behind me and want to share again.
I work at a homeless shelter and as a therapist/playmate of an autistic child (volunteering) and I also have a paid job at a fastfood.
I feel totally unsuficient.
For the past few days I am obsessing about me going to get kicked out of the autism therapy program. That's not going to happen. People that I do it for are of a very sweet and loving kind (at least they are trying to be??) and they are not kicking me out by any chance. I think. Well, at least they say so
I was oh-so-surprised when they hired me at the fastfood. I am also oh-so-surprised every time when I go there and do my work and realize that they actually are satisfied with my work and that they are actually paying me for it.
I think that I do a good job with my little autist. I love the kid. But I am avoidant (much more that I am in other situations) with his parents and other volunteers and I've gotten panic attacs (that I didn't manage to control) every time I tried to talk with them about my problems (I wanted to make it clear that I am not having any problems, that I am not unhappy or crazy or anything but that I am a normalmensch with some anxiety and deralization going on... but I somehow always end up mute, blushing and in tears). Big deal.
As for the homeless shelter... it's always the same. I AM useful, people DO behave nicely to me, but I am still pushed into the old role of a little helpless "cute" weak girl.
I feel I am not good enough. It's all in my head, and that's the big deal.
Wish I were able to make people treat me with more respect, though... More that my self-deprecation I am troubled by people trying to save me... adjusting their behaviour so as to not "hurt" me... labelling me with "fragile - do not touch" or "a kid - be a christian and treat her nicely" or even "strange - beware".
People at work, in school, everywhere always call me Susie.
I hate that.
So am I off-topic?
Shutting up.
Love to everyone reading this site. Fucking lots of love. We all need it.
S.
LonelyGirl
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My dream is to become a keyboard teacher. I've wanted to do it since I was fourteen. I'd like to work in a music school where I can teach small groups as well as individuals. I know it doesn't sound like the best career for someone with social anxiety, but I can't imagine doing anything else. When I was younger I felt under pressure to decide what career I wanted. It seemed like everybody else already knew. I thought about being a vet or a graphic designer, but I didn't really want that. It suddenly hit me one day when I wasn't really thinking about anything that I wanted to be a keyboard teacher. It felt so right that I never thought I wouldn't be good enough. It's the one thing I truly believe will work out. Even if I never accomplish anything else I feel like I will always be able to do that job.
dpr
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emmdee said:
me... lol
well, sort of
i know i'm good enough... i just don't know if i have the balls for it
follow it though. do graphic design and film if that's what you love. even if you don't make any money off of it and have to supplement it with a crappy "day job." That way, you'll get to do it whether it's your career or not!
Argamemnon
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It's not that I'm dumb, but I just can't deal with stress because of my depression and social anxiety. For this reason I can't realize my dreams.
