Hello everyone,
This is my first post here. This year I got diagnosed with S.A.D. It's been a hard time.
Before been diagnosed, I had a long-term relationship for almost 7 years. She was my first girlfriend. The fact is, we never had sex.... She was scared of becoming pregnant, etc. I never had sex before too. I kept waiting for years and years, but we never did anything. Our relationship finally ended (mainly because there wasn't enough passion, love, etc...)
Like 2 months later, I started dating this girl, we made instant-click and things became really interesting. I found someone who understands my S.A.D., who gives me support, and most important: she is in love with me, and I am in love with her. We are now on a relationship.
Here's my problem: like I said, I never had sex until now. In her case, she had sex with 5 guys before me. We talk sometimes about this particular topic. She keeps telling me that I am, the best lover she ever had (including sex). She tells me that she is very surprised by my ''skills'' although I never did that before. She even says that she believed that I had sex with many people before her because of that. (In fact I'm not sure if I really believe what she says).
I get tormented because she had sex with 5 people before me. 3 of them were while being in a relationship. But the other 2 were just for the sex. And I keep imaging her doing sex with those guys. I get jealous because I never had the chance to had sex with more people before her. I get sick because I don't feel like a good lover.
Mostly, I feel inferior. Although she keeps telling me that I really impress her in the bed. I feel like I lost a lot of experiences that most people at my age had.
The worst thing is I feel this F...nG ideas will kill a wonderful relationship.
I am really trying to defeat those ideas, but they get worse.
Is there any mechanism for winning this war? Please help me people.
Thank you all...
This is my first post here. This year I got diagnosed with S.A.D. It's been a hard time.
Before been diagnosed, I had a long-term relationship for almost 7 years. She was my first girlfriend. The fact is, we never had sex.... She was scared of becoming pregnant, etc. I never had sex before too. I kept waiting for years and years, but we never did anything. Our relationship finally ended (mainly because there wasn't enough passion, love, etc...)
Like 2 months later, I started dating this girl, we made instant-click and things became really interesting. I found someone who understands my S.A.D., who gives me support, and most important: she is in love with me, and I am in love with her. We are now on a relationship.
Here's my problem: like I said, I never had sex until now. In her case, she had sex with 5 guys before me. We talk sometimes about this particular topic. She keeps telling me that I am, the best lover she ever had (including sex). She tells me that she is very surprised by my ''skills'' although I never did that before. She even says that she believed that I had sex with many people before her because of that. (In fact I'm not sure if I really believe what she says).
I get tormented because she had sex with 5 people before me. 3 of them were while being in a relationship. But the other 2 were just for the sex. And I keep imaging her doing sex with those guys. I get jealous because I never had the chance to had sex with more people before her. I get sick because I don't feel like a good lover.
Mostly, I feel inferior. Although she keeps telling me that I really impress her in the bed. I feel like I lost a lot of experiences that most people at my age had.
The worst thing is I feel this F...nG ideas will kill a wonderful relationship.
I am really trying to defeat those ideas, but they get worse.
Is there any mechanism for winning this war? Please help me people.
Thank you all...