MBinMN
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My relationship with my parents has now been completely severed. Well...my mother anyway.
My mother crossed all lines last night. She screamed and horrifically insulted me and said even worse things to My husband and kicked us out of her house. I now have to figure out how to maintain a relationship with my dad or if that is even possible
Oddly it started with a car situation. My parents offered to buy my twin boys a used car. Great right ? No they wanted to dictate rules on how the car was used, who used it etc.. My mother continued to talk and and make plans directly with the twins to which I requested her to work it out with me and the twins step dad because we would be paying gas and car insurance. She wouldnt listen, she even took them out car shopping! My father told me they were low on money and I said do not buy the car! We are ok! my mother continued and kept taking the twins shopping ( they were staying there vising for a few days) . last night i called and said we need to talk face to face -you, dad, my husband and I. So we drove down there. When we sat down I said the twins need to leave the room. Immediately my mom flipped out and said this is between you, me your dad and not HIM (meaning my husband who has raised my 18 year old boys since they were 7, their real dad took off on us) My husband then said stop! Due to the yelling and the twins were still in the room. Then my mom got worse and said you do not tell me what to do in my own house. You are a very mean person and began to go off saying every resentment she has had against him for the last 10 years...it was a nightmare. My husband did keep quiet and let her vent for awhile but then tried to stop it all again and she kicked us out. Told me good luck! Told me I'm a selfish daughter and can't even say thank you( I did several times)
I don't know how to feel today...lots of tears but mostly confusion and now I have very upset boys who blame us that they are not getting a car. A husband who is trying not to take to heart the things my mother said. He didn't sleep all night.
Top it off I washed my cell phone with our clothes this morning because I'm just out of it. Pretty sure its ruined.mg:
Wish I was a big drinker! I'd get drunk!:kickingmyself:
My mother crossed all lines last night. She screamed and horrifically insulted me and said even worse things to My husband and kicked us out of her house. I now have to figure out how to maintain a relationship with my dad or if that is even possible
Oddly it started with a car situation. My parents offered to buy my twin boys a used car. Great right ? No they wanted to dictate rules on how the car was used, who used it etc.. My mother continued to talk and and make plans directly with the twins to which I requested her to work it out with me and the twins step dad because we would be paying gas and car insurance. She wouldnt listen, she even took them out car shopping! My father told me they were low on money and I said do not buy the car! We are ok! my mother continued and kept taking the twins shopping ( they were staying there vising for a few days) . last night i called and said we need to talk face to face -you, dad, my husband and I. So we drove down there. When we sat down I said the twins need to leave the room. Immediately my mom flipped out and said this is between you, me your dad and not HIM (meaning my husband who has raised my 18 year old boys since they were 7, their real dad took off on us) My husband then said stop! Due to the yelling and the twins were still in the room. Then my mom got worse and said you do not tell me what to do in my own house. You are a very mean person and began to go off saying every resentment she has had against him for the last 10 years...it was a nightmare. My husband did keep quiet and let her vent for awhile but then tried to stop it all again and she kicked us out. Told me good luck! Told me I'm a selfish daughter and can't even say thank you( I did several times)
I don't know how to feel today...lots of tears but mostly confusion and now I have very upset boys who blame us that they are not getting a car. A husband who is trying not to take to heart the things my mother said. He didn't sleep all night.
Top it off I washed my cell phone with our clothes this morning because I'm just out of it. Pretty sure its ruined.mg:
Wish I was a big drinker! I'd get drunk!:kickingmyself: