squidgee
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Now this is a bit of a sensitive topic for me, even for a forum like this where people are generally more understanding and supportive. Just putting that out there.
I find myself in the unfortunate predicament of struggling to decide whether physical attraction or emotional attraction to another is more important. I ask this because I highly suspect I'm homosexual. I'm attracted to the physical qualities of men, but I simply can't see myself in a more emotionally attached relationship with people of the same sex. For women, it's the complete opposite. I feel as if I could really connect emotionally, but the physical attraction just isn't there.
I don't know whether I've just been conditioned to think this way due to Western societal expectations, or maybe I'm still in the midst of exploring my sexuality (I'm 17 years old). I've weighed the pros and cons of pursuing either, and I'm slightly leaning towards a relationship with a woman. But if I did this, I feel as if I wouldn't be staying true to myself. It'd also be unfair for the woman if she falsely believed that I was straight. On the flipside, pursuing a relationship with a guy just isn't widely accepted and I'd be prone to the social stigma and judgement that comes from being a homosexual. Not only that, but like I said, I can't see myself forming a very meaningful long-term relationship with a guy. As of now, I'm thinking that the emotional part of a relationship is more important.
Is this just something I'll figure out by myself as I grow older, because I've been pretty uncertain about this for some time. Some feedback would be greatly appreciated, wonder if there's anyone going through/has gone through a similar situation.
I find myself in the unfortunate predicament of struggling to decide whether physical attraction or emotional attraction to another is more important. I ask this because I highly suspect I'm homosexual. I'm attracted to the physical qualities of men, but I simply can't see myself in a more emotionally attached relationship with people of the same sex. For women, it's the complete opposite. I feel as if I could really connect emotionally, but the physical attraction just isn't there.
I don't know whether I've just been conditioned to think this way due to Western societal expectations, or maybe I'm still in the midst of exploring my sexuality (I'm 17 years old). I've weighed the pros and cons of pursuing either, and I'm slightly leaning towards a relationship with a woman. But if I did this, I feel as if I wouldn't be staying true to myself. It'd also be unfair for the woman if she falsely believed that I was straight. On the flipside, pursuing a relationship with a guy just isn't widely accepted and I'd be prone to the social stigma and judgement that comes from being a homosexual. Not only that, but like I said, I can't see myself forming a very meaningful long-term relationship with a guy. As of now, I'm thinking that the emotional part of a relationship is more important.
Is this just something I'll figure out by myself as I grow older, because I've been pretty uncertain about this for some time. Some feedback would be greatly appreciated, wonder if there's anyone going through/has gone through a similar situation.
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