Resistance towards helping myself

[InDeepshit]

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[IknowIhaveSP]

I relate to this!! I'm so shy that I dont want to talk to a psychologist I dont think they will understand. They will be laughing inside maybe. And yes if they are not specialized in anxiety disorder I dont think they will be able to help.

This problem has prevented me from organising sessions with a psychologist. Earlier this year i was motivated enough to start looking for help, and after two days of procrastination i mustered up the courage to call up the psychologists. I was immediately put off by how professional they sounded, and i began mumbling like a child as i do when i feel inferior. I felt so down and embarrassed that i cancelled the session i had organised. I don't think these people can help unless they have specialised in the disorder, and i know the only way to change is when i accept responsibility for taking the steps towards change... i need to find out how i can hold on to being inspired and motivated to do this because i keep forgeting. I've slipped back into a negativity again and i feel apathetic.

 

[InDeepshit]

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[VioletTears]

I know this is an old post but I had to respond because it totally rings a bell for me. I just made an appointment with a psychiatrist a couple of weeks ago. I will be meeting with her for the first time next month.

Before making the appointment I went through a whole bunch of pictures of therapists posted on a website and everyone looked so professional and competant and together, I just kept going from one picture to the next thinking, "well, they wouldn't understand me." ...which is so hypocritical because here I am worried about being judged and I'm judging them! But honestly, I did find the least professional pic I could and tried making an appointment with that therapist... Unfortunately, they weren't available and I had to take who I could get.

I am wondering how on earth I will ever manage to open up... I am also wondering how someone can change me whn I haven't been able to change myself in all my life... I just know that I do need to try.

 

[Skog]

http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/postt11513.html

Apart from how or whether you get any professional help, my question posted at the above link was "What would you like others to do?

I have not sought professional help, but I have tried sometimes changing my behavior and I've tried confiding in a couple of people. I haven't found those helpful so far. Part of my frustration is that changing me isn't enough; I need to change other people's reactions to me. I don't seem to be able to do that.