slipping away!!!!!!!

[LA323]

do any of u fee like ur getting old, time is passing by, and that ur life is just passing thru ur eyes and u cant do nothing about it cuz of ur SA. For example i didnt graduate high school, i had friends but couldnt enjoy them and have beutiful relationships with them, i didnt take pictures, didnt go 2 football games, didnt see my graduation picture in the school year book, and many things that make me sooooo sad and i know i cant do nothing about it, i know that time wont come back, i know i cant go back, i dont have any memories about it, and im afraid that this will happen with other things in my life, i feel soo hopeless, and this will bother me 4 the rest of my life, do any of u feel like this ??

 

[Anonymous]

3 words -

don't look back

 

[Anonymous]

I know exactly how that feels. I'm only 23 but I feel so old. Every birthday that passes just depresses me becuase all I can think of is how much of my life I've wasted. It feels like I'm stuck in time, not really acomplishing anything, miserable, and destined to just watch as everyone else moves on with their lives leaving me behind. I wish I could say something encouraging but I've felt like this for about 7 years when I too dropped out of high school.

 

[JWH]

Yes. I'll be 22 in little more than a week and for the first time in my life, just yesterday I managed to the cinema on my own. My life has been in slow motion since I can remember.

 

[Horatio]

Yes LA I can definetely relate

Its like life has kept going and disgarded me along the wayside in the gutter and no matter how hard I try to run and catch up Im always left there.

I turn 23 later this year... and still havent had a serious girlfriend. Im still looking to go on a first date whilst most my age seem to be looking for marriage or long term relationships. My younger brother has a long term girlfriend and is staring marriage down the barrell and I still havent dated...

I feel like Im getting very old, even though Im only 22... and I think that must be because I feel I havent acheived what I ought to have by this stage in my life. Like I never had a 21st party because I had no friends to invite

 

[Anonymous]

This condition is a fate worse than death!I'ts like your alive,but not living.I think it is just as bad as being crippled in a wheelchair.You see everyone around you living,but you just can't be a part of it. It literally robs you of your life.IT FUCKING SUCKS ASS!

 

[Hype1010]

The worse thing is that it can be soo predictable at times. I can literally pin-point things that are/aren't gonna happen in the future due to my SA. A co-worker told me that this girl was interested in me today and I just told him that realistically, I ain't gonna do anything so what's the point. Urgh... All this sucks!

 

[Scottish_Player]

I know how you fell,iam 23 and never had a relationship,i was round at my brothers friends house today doing work (iam an electrician) as he has just bought the house.They used to be my friends aswell up until i was about 13 when i stopped going out and socialisig,i suppose they still are my friends but not in a social way.Anyway having been round and seeing him with a nice house,a gf and what seems like the happy life iam now feeling like shit,iam not jealous in anyway i just wish it was me.

Everyone round me seems to be going somewhere with there life and mine hasent even started and i dont know how to get it started,and to top it all off i was told this week that in a years time the company that i work for may be shuting down,it has only taken me about 5 of the 6 years i have worked there to become comfortable and feel relaxed at work now ive got this on mind mind to worry about until next year when i see what happens.

THE WORLD DONT YA JUST LOVE IT :roll:

 

[Nightshade]

I try not to give into this feeling, but when I hit 30 it just came over me like a wave and just wouldn't go.

When I was 21 I thought I was old to have never had a boyfriend, and was worried people would find out.

At 25 I felt like I was really old to have never had a boyfriend and was really worried that people would find out. But then I also had a lot of other stuff in my life that gave me pleasure, and I have always been pretty independant. Only rarely did it get to me.

At 30 it suddenly hit me that, while I hoped with each new year that things would change, they never did. I was a 30 year old virgin and it was a bit bloody late to start a first relationship. How the hell could I tell someone I had never had a relationship, particularly when I just couldn't work out why other people managed to have relationships and I couldn't? Or how could I hide that fact from them?

I became terrified that people would find out.

So now I'm 33 and I have still never had a relationship. I have clarified in my own mind the factors that have led to this, but I still don't really want to share those reasons with the world (ok, I have to some extent on the relative anonymity of the internet).

I'm starting to make progress. I'm very determined and I'm working hard. I can see the improvement.

But still I look back and think, how much time have I lost? How many chances have I wasted?

At my age, there aren't a lot of single people around. My friends are almost all married or in long-term relationships, and quite a few have children. And where am I? To outward appearances I'm doing quite well, but I struggle to put aside the fact that I'm a 33 year old virgin.

I feel so old. When I say this people say "but you're not old". Most of my friends are older than me. I can't explain to them why I feel so bad. It's exactly this though.

I feel like Im getting very old, even though Im only 22... and I think that must be because I feel I havent acheived what I ought to have by this stage in my life.

Every birthday that passes just depresses me becuase all I can think of is how much of my life I've wasted.

I just don't want to explain why to people - that I know that some people are single at 33, but how many have never had any sort of sexual intimate relationship at all? Not many. Sigh.

This is making me feel miserable. So I'll say, yes LA323, I have this feeling, but I'm trying not to dwell on it. I'm off to go and read about some of the stuff I was doing when I first started getting treatment, to remind myself that I have started to improve.

I have wasted the past, but I'm not going to waste what I have left.

 

[Hamble]

The worse thing is that it can be soo predictable at times. I can literally pin-point things that are/aren't gonna happen in the future due to my SA. A co-worker told me that this girl was interested in me today and I just told him that realistically, I ain't gonna do anything so what's the point. Urgh... All this sucks!

What do you mean you're not going to do anything? What do you have to do? The fact you've found out somebody really likes you should be such an ego boost? She's not pretending to like you is she? What would be the point? Sooo.....? Get back to your co-worker... find out more info Play detective? Could be fun? Somthing to take your mind of off of things at least?

 

[Hamble]

do any of u fee like ur getting old, time is passing by, and that ur life is just passing thru ur eyes and u cant do nothing about it cuz of ur SA. For example i didnt graduate high school, i had friends but couldnt enjoy them and have beutiful relationships with them, i didnt take pictures, didnt go 2 football games, didnt see my graduation picture in the school year book, and many things that make me sooooo sad and i know i cant do nothing about it, i know that time wont come back, i know i cant go back, i dont have any memories about it, and im afraid that this will happen with other things in my life, i feel soo hopeless, and this will bother me 4 the rest of my life, do any of u feel like this ??

I have felt exactly the same, so many times. It doesn't help having an extra confident gf who is ten year older than me, telling me of amazing tales and fun and adventure when she was my age. She has drawers full of photos and old phonebooks full of mates and yeh, it has gotten me down.

But what does it mean really? All the people in her pics, she never talks to anymore...all the stories of her youth, she seems to regret. At 30, shes only just learnt to get to know the real her.

To be honest I feel like I've had a better time than she has. At least I know myself better and know what I want for the future.

Dont regret the past, it will haunt and traumatise you, so dont give it the satisfaction. Look forward ... that's more important to you.

 

[Anonymous]

So now I'm 33 and I have still never had a relationship.

You are not alone. I'm in the same situation and I actually know of at least 3 other people in the same situation. One is actually 41 years old, the other 2 are in their 30's, as am I.

The good thing is that you at least now know that you have a recognised mental condition and are taking action to try to improve your situation. I wish you well. I wish myself well, too. I can't say I'm particularly optimistic that I'll ever have a g/f, but now that I know that I have treatable mental condition, i can at least attempt to improve my life.

At the moment, I'm still at the stage where each night, I hope that I will die in my sleep.