social phobia and blushing

[redterror]

Hi Vicky Lee, I struggle with chronic blushing too! I hate to give you bad news, but exercise and getting fit will do nothing to reduce your blushing episodes. I'm seeing a psychologist at the moment and he's trying to get me to think differently about my blushing. Currently when I blush I feel humiliated and weak and think that no one would want to know me! He tells me of people who blush that have no social anxiety or phobia. I am sceptical about this. There is a surgical procedure called Endoscopic Transthoracic Sympathectomy which it is claimed can cure blushing in 85% of cases. I'm thinking of having this surgery myself because I believe that my blushing is 80% of my problem. I wish you all the best.

 

[Anonymous]

Hi guys!!
Give me five!!!
I get blushed a lot!! it makes me feel extremely embarrased. I feel like a tomato. I don´t go to parties or meet with friends because I´m afraid of my getting blushed. I don´t even work!!! because of that!
I´ve been thinking seriously about the surgery which is sad to finish with the problem once and for all.

Hi guys.
My problem is different everytime I get involved with a new person I then become very tense and blush everytime I speak to this person. At the beginning when he's nothing but a friend, I'm fine-no blushing but when the person reveals his feelings towards me I then start blushing everytime we see eachother. Does anyone have this problem??

 

[Anonymous]

Well I can relate to most stuff that has been said. I have a real problem with blushing, whilst talking to people, or giving a presentation to a small amount of people. Im 19, and this has been a big prob since school, and as you can imagine is totally humiliating Its just about ruined my life so far, I went to see a specialist after becomming severly depressed near to the point of taking my own life.

I never had the guts to tell anyone about this problem, as I feel increadably stupid. Maybe i shud tell my specialist next time

I avoid everthing, like parties, places were i might get attention etcetcetc

If you met me on a good day, you would never know this is a problem, unless for some reason i have an attack of and youd be like 8O !

anyway, i know youre pain i dont think even my familly would take me seriously if i told them about this.

surgery eh?... that pricey? :S

 

[Anonymous]

me too

man, i blush also but this is different for me. I am 26 years old, i think i'm an attractive guy because i get looks from women all the time but i have no guts to go up to them let alone talk to them with my sa in the way. For me my blushing goes beyond blushing, infact my blushing is so bad i think it redefined the meaning of blushing. when i talk to people the conversations i have i start to blush, then for no reason i start to frown as if i'm scared at something, i guess in a way i start to panic. I guess every attempt i make to try to keep a converstation going gets interrupted by this panic or fear that i have. This really sucks because i cannot get a job or hold a frienship. In a sense i'm locked up in my own world. If all you ladies out there have a problem like this holler at me at imohiuddin2@ hotmail dot com maybe we can both work our way out of this problem together

 

[neddy]

I have had a problem with blushing since I was a kid. I used to be very shy and everytime someone asked me a question or said hello I used to go bright red. I'm not so self conscious of it now. Every now and again I can feel my cheeks go very hot and think to myself here I go again but I don't worry about it anymore. I just smile at people and pretend there is nothing wrong. One day someone (a male) was trying to have a conversation with me and I felt myself blush and heard someone comment that I was getting all embarrassed and was bright red and that made me even worse. I guess having fair skin doesn't help either as it is more noticable. Now when I blush I just say that it is very hot in here and I need some fresh air.

 

[Anonymous]

blusin

hi all, i have same problem. I didnt realise so many others out there have same as me and when i read wat u have all put i relate so much. I want to try stop the blusing problem but wonder on the best ways?
I think medication but i wonder if doctor will take the problem serious enough to give medication, people on medication wat have u found? and does medicaion really work. Main thing i hate bout this problem is fact i feel its holding me back from many things in life and i just want to be able to live and have fun. 22 now dont want to take this blusing problem to my grave but can i ever be free? does any1 believe u can really overcome it??????

 

[barroter]

Blushing

Happened to me for years. It gets to the point where I just ignore peoples reaction to me now. It's embarrasing I know but I cannot really control it so I gave up on it.

 

[Anonymous]

Hi, I am in the process of constructing a site to offer advice and help to people who experience unwanted blushing and shyness. I only just started it up today but keep checking it as I will be putting lots of helpful (I hope!) info on there.

Also, if you have any suggestions for my site you can email me - [email protected]

The site is www.BlushingHelp.cjb.net

 

[gem]

I used to worry so much about blushing. I could blush even if I was not embarresed, infront of friends or infront of strangers! Now I have other things to worry about, like conversational skills. At the moment that is my biggest problem. Hang in there blushing seems bad but once you get yourself together it fades and fades.

 

[Anonymous]

I think I also have the same thing, whenever i get nervous or like silly things like reading in front of a class, i get a rash all over my chest and arms, it's really embarassing and noticable, and i don't know what it is, can anyone help? It's really iratating because i want to persue a career as an actress but feel this is stopping me do auditions etc, because i'm very aware of it, can anyone help?

 

[Anonymous]

I was recently diagnosed with social phobia. I main problem is that I am afraid of what people will think about me because I blush easily. I even blush at unappropriate times when there is nothing to be embarrassed about. How many out there have this problem? What did you do?

I have this exact problem its ruining my life, i quit my job because of it. i dont know what to do.

 

[Anonymous]

I know a technique that makes the blush go away or change its position. When you blush, squeeze (i dont know if this is the right word i mean hold tight) your earlobe, then you'll see that the blush on your face goes to your ears. (and that's much less noticeable for sure). It's smt about the blood movement, i heard it from a doctor. It works for me.

 

[Anonymous]

blush

hi all im 21 from england i was diagnosed with sp about 3 years ago didnt seem to suffer from blushing that much up untill then now i constantly blush, if u can call it that its more of my whole face going bright red and hot ive been on seroxat 30mg (am still on the bloody things 10mg)and it made no difference i wish there was some way of stopping it because im my job we have to give handover where we all go into a pretty small office i dare not speak and always pray no ones gonna speak to me necause as soon as thay do i blush

 

[felix]

Yeah i get this problem too, it really sucks!
Sometimes i think that I wouldn't even have SA or ne thing if it weren;t for the blushing, because it makes me nervous in so many situations in case I blush. For some reason it hasn't actually been that bad recently though and I think thats because i've had a more positive attitude. And i think i'm going to try the meditation that someone talked about earlier because I've heard that it can help to relieve anxiety in general (thats why buddhas are such nice people!)

 

[Nightshade]

I used to have what I considered a bad problem with blushing, and I found that the few times I tried to explain it to people, they just told me to ignore it but I couldn't - it was running my whole life.

I went to the doctor and asked whether there was any treatment and she refered me for cognitive behavioural therapy. When I did some reading about it, I discovered what social anxiety was, and I realised, I didn't have a blushing problem, I had a social anxiety problem with blushing as a symptom, and I realised just how much my life was controlled by my anxiety. For a while, it was just overwhelming.

Now, after 3 months of treatment and hard work, it is definitely improving. I feel so much better about it already. I'd recommend that approach to others.