Primus
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Okay, so I decided that I'm gonna give it everything I have and try to get out and socialize as much as possible, but its alot harder then I expected.
This will be sort of a long post, if you don't want to read, just skip to the end and read the last 2 paragraphs and please comment on what you think I should do (basically the socializing goes good at beginning and goes to hell towards end).
I meet an old friend at a Coffee Shop and we sit and talk for alittle bit and I'm doing suprising okay, some awkward moments for me but for the most part it wasn't bad.
Then we decide to go for a run, and she follows me to my house, I get my running clothes and we take her car to her house. The ride there was okay, there was maybe one uncomfortable moment for me, but I feel like I am doing really good, and I don't feel awkward at all.
When we get there, I change my clothes real quick since I'm a guy it doesn't take much prepping to get ready for a run, but I guess it takes girls awhile.
Well the run goes smooth except we stop at her friends house to take a rest, no one is home so we just rest there for alittle bit and the whole time I had a blank fucking mind I couldn't think of anything to say and it was really awkward and intimate setting. From here it goes downhill.
We go back to her house and it takes forever for her to get ready again, and the whole time I'm waiting I feel uncomfortable in her house around her parents so I'm going in and out of the house walking around trying to look busy and trying to not go crazy.
We leave to go visit her friend at work, I know it's a bad idea and I should go home now and leave the experience with semi-good outlook on socializing, but I give into her and we go visit her friend. The whole time I am really fucking anxious and uncomfortable, my eyes glancing around, I'm sure they noticed it but I don't really give a fuck. I just can't accept myself and be myself, am I scared of being gay? and I scared that I act weird? what am I so scared that I will find if I be myself in front of people. What the fuck is holding me back.
Anyway she can tell I'm nervous so she asks if I want to go and I say yes. She drops me off at my house and I can barely make eye contact when we say bye and its so fucking uncomfortable for me, now I leave the experience with bad thoughts about socializing.
She wants to hang out tomorow, and I don't know if I should or not. Maybe I should just relax and clear my mind and try to go to bed with a good attitude and try again tomorow? Or maybe I should just go back to being isolated a couple days and then try again when my mind is ready.
Also, she asks if I want to go on a trip this weekend with her and 2 of her friends to stay at a one of her friends apartment. I don't know about doing this, 2 days with these people and if I have a social anxiety moment it will probably last awhile since I won't be able to be by myself to settle down from the moment. I just don't know if I should go or not.
I think I will stick with my plan to get over this mental process disorder (SA) and give it all I got, but damn it's gonna be hard. Please comment.
This will be sort of a long post, if you don't want to read, just skip to the end and read the last 2 paragraphs and please comment on what you think I should do (basically the socializing goes good at beginning and goes to hell towards end).
I meet an old friend at a Coffee Shop and we sit and talk for alittle bit and I'm doing suprising okay, some awkward moments for me but for the most part it wasn't bad.
Then we decide to go for a run, and she follows me to my house, I get my running clothes and we take her car to her house. The ride there was okay, there was maybe one uncomfortable moment for me, but I feel like I am doing really good, and I don't feel awkward at all.
When we get there, I change my clothes real quick since I'm a guy it doesn't take much prepping to get ready for a run, but I guess it takes girls awhile.
Well the run goes smooth except we stop at her friends house to take a rest, no one is home so we just rest there for alittle bit and the whole time I had a blank fucking mind I couldn't think of anything to say and it was really awkward and intimate setting. From here it goes downhill.
We go back to her house and it takes forever for her to get ready again, and the whole time I'm waiting I feel uncomfortable in her house around her parents so I'm going in and out of the house walking around trying to look busy and trying to not go crazy.
We leave to go visit her friend at work, I know it's a bad idea and I should go home now and leave the experience with semi-good outlook on socializing, but I give into her and we go visit her friend. The whole time I am really fucking anxious and uncomfortable, my eyes glancing around, I'm sure they noticed it but I don't really give a fuck. I just can't accept myself and be myself, am I scared of being gay? and I scared that I act weird? what am I so scared that I will find if I be myself in front of people. What the fuck is holding me back.
Anyway she can tell I'm nervous so she asks if I want to go and I say yes. She drops me off at my house and I can barely make eye contact when we say bye and its so fucking uncomfortable for me, now I leave the experience with bad thoughts about socializing.
She wants to hang out tomorow, and I don't know if I should or not. Maybe I should just relax and clear my mind and try to go to bed with a good attitude and try again tomorow? Or maybe I should just go back to being isolated a couple days and then try again when my mind is ready.
Also, she asks if I want to go on a trip this weekend with her and 2 of her friends to stay at a one of her friends apartment. I don't know about doing this, 2 days with these people and if I have a social anxiety moment it will probably last awhile since I won't be able to be by myself to settle down from the moment. I just don't know if I should go or not.
I think I will stick with my plan to get over this mental process disorder (SA) and give it all I got, but damn it's gonna be hard. Please comment.