Okay, ((hun))!! ((hugs)) again..
Nightmares suck.. I had them too occasionally.. Not so many though.. And yours sound particularly terrible!! Having no sleep can make you go woozy too!! No wonder you feel bad...
What you need is to research how to stop the nightmares.. Maybe do a search if anyone has written about this here, or google it?
Could you sort of imagine what you could do now, that you are grown and taller - have you learnt any kungfu tricks or such? Or at least the knee kick to you-know-where (never fails and can get a man uhm, rather powerless... even if you do it by accident) Could you imagine becoming Jackie Chan (or someone really strong) and sort of kicking your step-dad's butt in imagination??
Can you maybe get some martial arts training to make you feel stronger?
If you could get rid of the films in your head and the nightmares, would life still be so terrible, or would it be okay to live? I think it would be much better.. and a start..
Have you tried EFT or TAT yet?
EFT: emofree.com TAT: tatlife.com - free pdf manuals online
I found them helpful to deal with some old things, actually printed them out and did them for a while.. Maybe they could be helpful to you too?
I'd really recommend this book too: Louise Hay: You can Heal your Life - see if your library has it? It's maybe a bit corny but was really helpful to me in the past..
You're real lucky to have your bf and mom who are sympathetic to you!! So I'm thinking you must really be a very nice girl.. just went through a lot!!
How old are you 16-18? How do you know you're anything?? You're soo young!! You haven't even begun to live!!
Do you know how many people only got real successful when they were older?!!
There's a great singer who got famous when she was 80!! 80!!
Was she a 'loser' and 'ruin' before, all those 80 years? No.. but it took so long to get recognized in the world..
Of course I hope you'll get recognition and success sooner than that!!
What made you think you're a life ruiner and 'loser'? Whose life did you ruin? Your own or anyone else's?
Bad treatment from significant people in our lives can cause people to think this way.. it's just brainwashing.. they repeated it so much you started to believe it.. it doesn't make it true.. Do you think I or other people on this board are 'life ruiners' or 'losers' too... hmm..? Would you say that to a good friend though?
By some standards, maybe some of us are.. Some stay inside and don't go outside at all, maybe don't have any friends or bf/gf or close people right now.. They may take steps to get better though, and eventually get better and turn their life around.. get jobs/careers and meet new people.. So would they still be 'losers'? - Would that be 'before' or 'after'? What's a 'loser' anyway? Some are happy to be 'losers' (of kilograms, if they were overweight, or of no-good people in their life or such..) Lose something, win something better...?
What would it take for your life to be 'successful' and 'a good life'? And feel that way too?
Maybe things to think about... ((hugs))
No i dont think any of you are mean or judgemental. i was talking about people in real life, those so called professionals. i didnt get in a fight with anyone or anything like that. i just dont feel i deserve to live. im just weak. and this stupid movie of my life wont stop playing over and over in my head. i cannot escape! now im starting to have dreams about it too. im afraid to sleep now because of the dreams. i wake up screaming and my body actually hurts! dreaming of my step dad beating on me. but forget about dreams and movies. im a life ruiner and a loser so i just dont want to live.