yohannes
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I had SA for almost ten years. Since, I was fourteen now I am twenty-four. At the worst times my SA was so bad that I didn’t leave my house for straight month. I usually go online or play games until I go to sleep. I was afraid of leaving my house. I was afraid that everyone was watching me & judging me. If I had to go outside I usually never made eye contact with anyone & kept my head down, so no one can look at me. I felt inferior unworthy person. I disliked myself I thought I was ugly and no one wanted to be with me. I even try to kiII myself like four times and never succeeded.
I guess people say you have to hit rock bottom before you change. I made one very important decision “I will not leave with SA anymore and I will do anything to solve it”. My first move was to go back to college that gave me some where to be. I will not tell you isn’t easy, but I know I had to go to college to have a better future. Remember your in college for one reason for education. Then I started to read as much as I can about SA. That really helps since I realized that I am not the only one. That their are million like me and that give me the strength to tell my doctor that I had a problem. My doctor was very supportive she was my doc since childhood she was very understanding and recommended me to GCBT program. She told me that there was going to be like six months of waiting list. Then I knew until then I had to help myself.
One very important think that I started to realize about me was that I always try to act in ways that I believe people perceive me. If they were happy I was happy & if they were sad I was sad. I was out to please everyone and I forgot the most important person me. At that time my self-esteem was low. I think we all suffer from these. My main problem was that I believe that I need to be accepted or validated by other to feel good about myself. In reality self-esteem isn’t build by other it is build by me. Self-esteem isn’t the consequence or reflection of other think or feels about me. I knew I had to change the way I think about myself. I realized that I had many good qualities. I was nice & caring person. I started to feel better. Just knowing that I had control over my self-esteem did wonders. I had self respect for me and me new I have the right to act in any way I want & can express myself. . I am not saying that my SA is gone but now I can talk to teachers & even my school mate with much anxiety. Now I walk with confident never looking down & go outside with zero anxiety.
I have to give a credit for exercise for my physical symptom. Running and doing weight has help. I more relax and feel good about my body.
I will be finishing school like in a year. I also had just had my first GCBT session. Things are moving in right direction hopefully I will bit my SA in year or two god willingly. We all have the right to be happy fight for it.
I guess people say you have to hit rock bottom before you change. I made one very important decision “I will not leave with SA anymore and I will do anything to solve it”. My first move was to go back to college that gave me some where to be. I will not tell you isn’t easy, but I know I had to go to college to have a better future. Remember your in college for one reason for education. Then I started to read as much as I can about SA. That really helps since I realized that I am not the only one. That their are million like me and that give me the strength to tell my doctor that I had a problem. My doctor was very supportive she was my doc since childhood she was very understanding and recommended me to GCBT program. She told me that there was going to be like six months of waiting list. Then I knew until then I had to help myself.
One very important think that I started to realize about me was that I always try to act in ways that I believe people perceive me. If they were happy I was happy & if they were sad I was sad. I was out to please everyone and I forgot the most important person me. At that time my self-esteem was low. I think we all suffer from these. My main problem was that I believe that I need to be accepted or validated by other to feel good about myself. In reality self-esteem isn’t build by other it is build by me. Self-esteem isn’t the consequence or reflection of other think or feels about me. I knew I had to change the way I think about myself. I realized that I had many good qualities. I was nice & caring person. I started to feel better. Just knowing that I had control over my self-esteem did wonders. I had self respect for me and me new I have the right to act in any way I want & can express myself. . I am not saying that my SA is gone but now I can talk to teachers & even my school mate with much anxiety. Now I walk with confident never looking down & go outside with zero anxiety.
I have to give a credit for exercise for my physical symptom. Running and doing weight has help. I more relax and feel good about my body.
I will be finishing school like in a year. I also had just had my first GCBT session. Things are moving in right direction hopefully I will bit my SA in year or two god willingly. We all have the right to be happy fight for it.