TooShyShy
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I have been reading so much about Avoident Personality Disorder and Love Shyness and find the two go hand in hand.
I also read that not being able to show affection (physically) and/or receive it from a woman (kissing, touching, full sexual contact) is many times the reason men become so depressed and unable to break down their walls and approach and/or respond to women they find attractive or want to be with.
I find it very sad and in a way remarkable.
I always thought mens sexual urges were so powerful that they could break through any barriers wether it be shyness, anxiety, depression, etc. the more i learn the more amazed i am.
Its got ot be the toughest thing in the world..now i get why when reading all these posts i feel the frustration and sadness in them. I can't even imagine what its like..its got to be unbareable at times.
I am shy myself with a man i am interested in at first, especially if i have to see the person all the time - in some ways it makes it more intense; the glances, the stares, etc. thats when my shyness really comes out.
Unless the guy can approach me and make a move, i become even more shy. But when i have had men approach me, want to date me..have a relationship with me i am able to show him i care mentally, emotionally, physically..once i have gotten to know him and trust him i can be in a loving relationship on all levels.
Now, I still don't get exactly where the anxiety comes from for the man..if there really is in actuallity nothing to fear from the woman physically. I feel physical contact is wonderful with the right person..even just one you are attracted to or getting to know.
Is there such thing as the physical contact being to intense..or the man becoming to sensitive to touching? I ask bcuz i had an experience once when touching a guy (my shy guy at work0 on the knee just to get his attention and HE JUMPED A MILE OUT OF HIS SEAT!!!!!!! You would have thought i grabbed somethung else...lol...it really shocked me how red he turned int he face and how high he jumped. That was last year but the funny thing now is, when i do touch his shoulder or arm when talking (yes i am touching him now) he doesn't get AS anxious..and tends to stay around longer, not so ready run away and hide.
I'd like to hear everyones thoughts on physical contact and how they feel about it and how their anxiety has deprived them from being with a woman they are attracted to..or love.
What is it about touching or being touched by a woman that makes you anxious?
I also read that not being able to show affection (physically) and/or receive it from a woman (kissing, touching, full sexual contact) is many times the reason men become so depressed and unable to break down their walls and approach and/or respond to women they find attractive or want to be with.
I find it very sad and in a way remarkable.
I always thought mens sexual urges were so powerful that they could break through any barriers wether it be shyness, anxiety, depression, etc. the more i learn the more amazed i am.
Its got ot be the toughest thing in the world..now i get why when reading all these posts i feel the frustration and sadness in them. I can't even imagine what its like..its got to be unbareable at times.
I am shy myself with a man i am interested in at first, especially if i have to see the person all the time - in some ways it makes it more intense; the glances, the stares, etc. thats when my shyness really comes out.
Unless the guy can approach me and make a move, i become even more shy. But when i have had men approach me, want to date me..have a relationship with me i am able to show him i care mentally, emotionally, physically..once i have gotten to know him and trust him i can be in a loving relationship on all levels.
Now, I still don't get exactly where the anxiety comes from for the man..if there really is in actuallity nothing to fear from the woman physically. I feel physical contact is wonderful with the right person..even just one you are attracted to or getting to know.
Is there such thing as the physical contact being to intense..or the man becoming to sensitive to touching? I ask bcuz i had an experience once when touching a guy (my shy guy at work0 on the knee just to get his attention and HE JUMPED A MILE OUT OF HIS SEAT!!!!!!! You would have thought i grabbed somethung else...lol...it really shocked me how red he turned int he face and how high he jumped. That was last year but the funny thing now is, when i do touch his shoulder or arm when talking (yes i am touching him now) he doesn't get AS anxious..and tends to stay around longer, not so ready run away and hide.
I'd like to hear everyones thoughts on physical contact and how they feel about it and how their anxiety has deprived them from being with a woman they are attracted to..or love.
What is it about touching or being touched by a woman that makes you anxious?