OceanMist
Well-known member
What's the point of putting yourself through all of the social stuff? Where is the proof that socializing with others will make me happy and ok? Sure you can find surveys or studies that tell you socializing is more healthy, but who does those studies.....people that aren't me.
Just because talking to others helps someone, it doesn't mean it's going to help another person.
I'm given "simple" solutions like you need to talk more, which is laughable. If I enjoyed talking a lot and wasn't shy, don't you think I would talk more?
I'm at a point of mostly indifference. I saw this youtube video that tells me I should be happy with nothing, no friends, no g/f, even no family. Just sitting in my room with nothing. I thought that video says a lot....that we don't need people, and in fact, needing people is a problem.
I'm not telling you to isolate yourself, it's just something to think about. You don't need a relationship, you don't need sex.
I have found that depression is often a choice too. It would be easy for me to be depressed right now, but I'm not depressed. You know why? Because I know in my mind that things aren't too bad. I tell myself that. I have my own place right now and live alone, which is nice. I get to watch the NBA Finals on a nice tv alone without people interrupting the game with conversation.
I have all these options of great food. I don't have much money, but i do enough money to eat out and get good food. And yes, I'm optimistic enough to realize even Burger King is good food. Life is easy right now, and the weather isn't too bad. I don't have to work much at all in the summer, and then i get to watch movies and play a video game I like and get into that and even though I'm alone, I just enjoy the game for what it's worth, it is a good time.
What I'm saying is enjoy life the way you have it, or find a way to enjoy it. Just going on a walk with your dog can be an ok experience. A lot of people come on this site complaining and depressed, that's because you feel like you don't have enough. My advice: don't feel like that. Love what you have, look for reasons to be happy and try to enjoy yourself with what you have. That is something that will help your depression, as depression in my opinion can often be just a society trick on you, because society tends to "have more." But it's their version of more, it doesn't mean you should be sad. Think about it.
Just because talking to others helps someone, it doesn't mean it's going to help another person.
I'm given "simple" solutions like you need to talk more, which is laughable. If I enjoyed talking a lot and wasn't shy, don't you think I would talk more?
I'm at a point of mostly indifference. I saw this youtube video that tells me I should be happy with nothing, no friends, no g/f, even no family. Just sitting in my room with nothing. I thought that video says a lot....that we don't need people, and in fact, needing people is a problem.
I'm not telling you to isolate yourself, it's just something to think about. You don't need a relationship, you don't need sex.
I have found that depression is often a choice too. It would be easy for me to be depressed right now, but I'm not depressed. You know why? Because I know in my mind that things aren't too bad. I tell myself that. I have my own place right now and live alone, which is nice. I get to watch the NBA Finals on a nice tv alone without people interrupting the game with conversation.
I have all these options of great food. I don't have much money, but i do enough money to eat out and get good food. And yes, I'm optimistic enough to realize even Burger King is good food. Life is easy right now, and the weather isn't too bad. I don't have to work much at all in the summer, and then i get to watch movies and play a video game I like and get into that and even though I'm alone, I just enjoy the game for what it's worth, it is a good time.
What I'm saying is enjoy life the way you have it, or find a way to enjoy it. Just going on a walk with your dog can be an ok experience. A lot of people come on this site complaining and depressed, that's because you feel like you don't have enough. My advice: don't feel like that. Love what you have, look for reasons to be happy and try to enjoy yourself with what you have. That is something that will help your depression, as depression in my opinion can often be just a society trick on you, because society tends to "have more." But it's their version of more, it doesn't mean you should be sad. Think about it.