rocky_oreo
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I have SA/SP and also some form of agoraphobia but I can leave the house, just not on my own. I think it's called monophobia. I am ok with a person I feel safe with but I am way too afraid to leave the house on my own. I think years of bullying and name calling in the street was what built up to how I am feeling now.
Well anyway one of my biggest fears is when someone knocks on the door. I have no problems answering if someone is in the house with me but when I'm in the house on my own, I hate it. I can't do it. Because of my shyness I have trouble telling cold callers/jehovas witnesses etc to go away like most people do really easily and feel awful shutting the door in their faces, I can't do it. So instead I choose to not answer it.
I wish the door had some kind of little peepy hole so I could see who is out there but it's not that kind of door. There is a little picture on the door and I can just about make out the postman with his bag in the mornings. I have no trouble answering the door to the postman and this is even when I am not expecting him.
I and my partner have told my partners family time and time again that if they come round and my partner is at work, to text or phone me first so I am expecting them and then I will answer the door. They never do and instead I am made to feel ignorant for not answering the door. Just because they invite people to come round theirs any time of the day without letting them know first doesn't mean we are all like that. I am quite happy once I know they are coming. But when there is a knock or a few knocks at the door and I am alone in the house and I am not expecting anyone, I get very anxious and start worrying that my partners family will be mad at me for not answering. But they could fix that with a quick text message. Of course I am anxious it is one of them and it might be some other cold caller or a friend of my partners for instance, whom I wouldn't feel comfortable with.
Anyone else have this problem? And why won't they listen to me?
Well anyway one of my biggest fears is when someone knocks on the door. I have no problems answering if someone is in the house with me but when I'm in the house on my own, I hate it. I can't do it. Because of my shyness I have trouble telling cold callers/jehovas witnesses etc to go away like most people do really easily and feel awful shutting the door in their faces, I can't do it. So instead I choose to not answer it.
I wish the door had some kind of little peepy hole so I could see who is out there but it's not that kind of door. There is a little picture on the door and I can just about make out the postman with his bag in the mornings. I have no trouble answering the door to the postman and this is even when I am not expecting him.
I and my partner have told my partners family time and time again that if they come round and my partner is at work, to text or phone me first so I am expecting them and then I will answer the door. They never do and instead I am made to feel ignorant for not answering the door. Just because they invite people to come round theirs any time of the day without letting them know first doesn't mean we are all like that. I am quite happy once I know they are coming. But when there is a knock or a few knocks at the door and I am alone in the house and I am not expecting anyone, I get very anxious and start worrying that my partners family will be mad at me for not answering. But they could fix that with a quick text message. Of course I am anxious it is one of them and it might be some other cold caller or a friend of my partners for instance, whom I wouldn't feel comfortable with.
Anyone else have this problem? And why won't they listen to me?
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