Satine
Well-known member
Going back to No.1's OP, I'll echo earlier comments in this thread: it honestly isn't as serious as you think it is. Approaching a girl and talking to her isn't going to land you in jail. If she's not interested she'll just say no and that'll be that: you have your answer.
If she's attached and the guy's offended, he'll very likely just give you a stony look, and again, that'll be that.
The last Joseph attack was triggered, I think, by me talking about approaching girls in clubs. He seemed to misinterpret what I was saying, so I'll clarify here: clubs are places where social interactions aren't meant to be deadly-serious. It's not life and death in there, it's just a fun time. However, the vast majority of the time it's not so frivolous in there that every girl's just opening her legs for any bloke who walks past. It's somewhere in the middle.
Remember the whole point of dating: two people notice eachother, think they look like an interesting prospect, and they get closer. They date for a while. Sometimes it'll turn out that they're just what eachother wants, sometimes they realise they'd misunderstood what the other was about and break company. It's not death if that happens, it's just how it works. This doesn't render her a slut or him a loser, it just means that two people tried to make a relationship work, and either it didn't work, or it did and ran its course.
But finally, think of it this way: if you never approach a girl and just worry about what might happen, you'll definitely never get one. If you approach a few, you might get lucky or you might not, but you'll run a far higher chance of getting the relationship you're looking for.
If she's attached and the guy's offended, he'll very likely just give you a stony look, and again, that'll be that.
The last Joseph attack was triggered, I think, by me talking about approaching girls in clubs. He seemed to misinterpret what I was saying, so I'll clarify here: clubs are places where social interactions aren't meant to be deadly-serious. It's not life and death in there, it's just a fun time. However, the vast majority of the time it's not so frivolous in there that every girl's just opening her legs for any bloke who walks past. It's somewhere in the middle.
Remember the whole point of dating: two people notice eachother, think they look like an interesting prospect, and they get closer. They date for a while. Sometimes it'll turn out that they're just what eachother wants, sometimes they realise they'd misunderstood what the other was about and break company. It's not death if that happens, it's just how it works. This doesn't render her a slut or him a loser, it just means that two people tried to make a relationship work, and either it didn't work, or it did and ran its course.
But finally, think of it this way: if you never approach a girl and just worry about what might happen, you'll definitely never get one. If you approach a few, you might get lucky or you might not, but you'll run a far higher chance of getting the relationship you're looking for.
