planetweirdo
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Sometimes I feel like the biggest loser in the universe.
Do you feel like a loser?
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Quietguy11
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Not having a lot of friends does not make you a loser. You probably have qualities that are equal to or greater than popularity. I would rather take my studies serious in school and get good marks than to have lots of friends and not pay attention in class. I think you should let your mom visit you. She's probably really proud of you that you are making something of yourself. I want to take Graphic Design in college but my avoidant personality coupled with my social anxiety really frightens me and discourages me from making that move. I applaud you for putting yourself out there, despite feeling socially out of place.
Flanscho
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Oh, sure do. I look only average, I'm right now searching for a job, I don't have a lot of money or whatever.
I try to tell myself good things too though. I have a circle of great friends, I have a nice appartment, a loving family, live in a great city, will find a job pretty soon, have no debts, and am healthy. Things could be worse.
I try to tell myself good things too though. I have a circle of great friends, I have a nice appartment, a loving family, live in a great city, will find a job pretty soon, have no debts, and am healthy. Things could be worse.
manwithtwoheads
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yeah i do, i constantly feel like im going to do something wrong or even that i dont count
Lonelyguy111
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Big time loser. Many times over.
Lost jobs, lost friends, lost my mind.
Lose at everything.
Lose at Life.
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Lost jobs, lost friends, lost my mind.
Lose at everything.
Lose at Life.
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NightTimeForever
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Yes, I do, I literally feel mentally retarded. And I think once someone gets to that point, it's very unlikely that person will ever achieve anything.
MBinMN
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I think everybody feels like this at one time or another.
Do I feel like an outsider, different, yes! I feel what comes easy to most is so very difficult for me. I do however try and sometimes I surprise myself that I had a great conversation with a group of people, or I went out and didn't have a anxiety or panic attack today. Im sure you have a couple of those too. They say keep pushing yourself to try and try. Exposure is key. It will always be uncomfortable but they say it decreases? So Im trying. Trying to suppress those racing anxiety thoughts.
Hugs PS in no way are you a loser!
Do I feel like an outsider, different, yes! I feel what comes easy to most is so very difficult for me. I do however try and sometimes I surprise myself that I had a great conversation with a group of people, or I went out and didn't have a anxiety or panic attack today. Im sure you have a couple of those too. They say keep pushing yourself to try and try. Exposure is key. It will always be uncomfortable but they say it decreases? So Im trying. Trying to suppress those racing anxiety thoughts.
Hugs PS in no way are you a loser!
GhoulsNightOut
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I feel like a loser because my plan (months ago) to become independent completely backfired, and it's still a huge struggle right now to make it happen. The past 1 1/2 years have been wasted. I feel so far behind in life and nowhere near like an adult.
Occasionaly I do.
Sometimes there's a train of thoughts and insecurities and accompanying emotions overwhelming me, many sentiments that have been voiced here befall me ("I failed" "I wasted time" "My future is bleak" "what must others think of me" etc.) Most of these things, however are a FICTION, they are not an absolute truth. There are many versions of the truth, and most of it is a matter of opinion. In short, these things only live in the mind, in thinking, and these thoughts, which repeat endlessly and are entire useless can seriously be detrimental to your life.
In such a moment it's good to step out of thinking a bit. Meditation, just letting things be, and to feel alive and complete. Also letting go of any ambition or wants/needs/should haves. Just to be entirely in the moment. Then there will be some much needed calmth and space to bring about positive action.
Sometimes there's a train of thoughts and insecurities and accompanying emotions overwhelming me, many sentiments that have been voiced here befall me ("I failed" "I wasted time" "My future is bleak" "what must others think of me" etc.) Most of these things, however are a FICTION, they are not an absolute truth. There are many versions of the truth, and most of it is a matter of opinion. In short, these things only live in the mind, in thinking, and these thoughts, which repeat endlessly and are entire useless can seriously be detrimental to your life.
In such a moment it's good to step out of thinking a bit. Meditation, just letting things be, and to feel alive and complete. Also letting go of any ambition or wants/needs/should haves. Just to be entirely in the moment. Then there will be some much needed calmth and space to bring about positive action.
vickiekitties
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Nope Could be worse.
Could be worse.
Honda
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I feel upset because I get too anxious and get random panic attacks at occasions to the extent that is negatively affects my relationships, health, career and life in general. The result of that was my horrible past that still impacts me like a trauma and stresses out of my life.
I dont think I am a loser but this stuff beats you down and makes you feel miserable.
I dont think I am a loser but this stuff beats you down and makes you feel miserable.
oddOne
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I really don't know how I feel. Interaction with others always feels like a game, a game that I'm VERY good at . . . but one I only play because it is necessary and, occasionally, because it helps me think when I get stuck on something.
As for feeling like a "loser," what the f'ck does that even mean in the context of one's life? What constitutes a "winner," having lots of shit and a vast social network?
I have both and a career on the upswing, yet still feel only marginally better as compared to when neither was true about my life . . . whatever; I'm just tired of feeling "nothing."
As for feeling like a "loser," what the f'ck does that even mean in the context of one's life? What constitutes a "winner," having lots of shit and a vast social network?
I have both and a career on the upswing, yet still feel only marginally better as compared to when neither was true about my life . . . whatever; I'm just tired of feeling "nothing."
Section_31
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I do. All the time. every day.
I learn to disconnect it. And never stop trying. If your at the bottom you have everything to gain.
I learn to disconnect it. And never stop trying. If your at the bottom you have everything to gain.
That's exactly how I feel. It's like I'm living for the sake of living. Going nowhere, like lost puppy. Gosh, I hate myself for being that way. :sad: