Honestly, Do you literally have No friends?

Honestly? From mid 2004 I broke away from my peer group. I still had one friend that I saw regularly, my best friend. But at the end of August 2006, I decided to pull away from him, and since then I have had no friends in real life. I even went through a prolonged period where I was housebound for very nearly all of 2007. Only in 2008 did I start to try and understand why I was like this. I don't have online friends either, from mid 2006 I lost contact with all of my online friends (four people) as my old laptop was murdered by my cousin. The most difficult thing I find now is learning to include others in my life. My interests have taken precedence over sociality.

Idk. I could if I wanted to but I cant carry on a conversation too well so.....

TheAristocrat said:

Honestly? From mid 2004 I broke away from my peer group. I still had one friend that I saw regularly, my best friend. But at the end of August 2006, I decided to pull away from him, and since then I have had no friends in real life. I even went through a prolonged period where I was housebound for most of 2007. Only in 2008 did I start to try and understand why I was like this. I don't have online friends either, from mid 2006 I lost contact with all of my online friends (four people) as my old laptop was murdered by my cousin. The most difficult thing I find now is learning to include others in my life. My interests have taken precedence over sociality.

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LOL your laptop was murdered rofl I've recently murdered my own [i put a magnet on it, then i dropped my other one down the stairs] I was house bound from extreme anxiety for like 2 yrs and only left the house at night to walk the dog. I find including people in my life hard to. Social ppl are so good at trying to balance their lives, after all they've been doing it longer ::
it sucks being a newbie at life ::

i went for a year with no friends after slowly pushing them away one by one, in the end i snapped and joined facebook. it was messy and i was scatty but i guess i was lucky as i came through it all with one friend who comes round to see me. im not on facebook anymore so dont have any online friends anymore.

Two years? That's rough. How are you now, are you better able to leave your home? I used to go for very early walks while it was still dark to reacclimatize to the outside world, I persisted with this for a good few months. Not until the summer of 2008 did I actually start going out during the day. LOL, yes, my laptop was murdered in it's prime. That was a bitterly disappointing severing of my last connections to anyone.

AhhhhhhHHHHHH I can hardly read that baby blue color!

Yeah I have none. It's been at least a couple of years since I had a real-life conversation with a peer that went beyond "how are you?".

TheAristocrat said:

Two years? That's rough. How are you now, are you better able to leave your home? I used to go for very early walks while it was still dark to reacclimatize to the outside world, I persisted with this for a good few months. Not until the summer of 2008 did I actually start going out during the day. LOL, yes, my laptop was murdered in it's prime. That was a bitterly disappointing severing of my last connections to anyone.

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Yes almost 2 yrs of self loathing and depression, until I figured out what was wrong with me and found this site! I am much better now; I can make small [and i mean small] lol talk with strangers. If I get invited to go out with my cousins I go. Being friendly, I am good at it but Im not good at letting ppl get close. I just can't do it. Im not good at being vulnerable plus i fear rejection

BleedTheFreak said:

Yeah I have none. It's been at least a couple of years since I had a real-life conversation with a peer that went beyond "how are you?".

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yea i have only bcos i have job; working has made me more comfortable with ppl. im not good with intimate relationships/convos at all. I guy gave me his number and i don't plan on calling because i am not ready for all that [too much anxiety

I have zero friends too. I've never been able to keep friends for very long. I had friends in high school but towards the end I started drifting away from them from fear that they'd start asking for my number and wanting to hang out. All through school I never talked to friends outside of school. I just never wanted to.

I made one friend in college but that ended when the class we shared together ended. She seemed okay with it and somehow knew it was coming. It was weird.

Having friends just always seemed like too much work to me. And I've always had to worry about not offending them by not wanting to go to their parties or hang out with them or talk on the phone to them. My mother told me recently that most people like texting all the time now, so it might be easier for me to have friends and not have to worry about them calling me all the time.

I've always had problems making friends even back in grade school. I've recently cut myself off from talking to a few people I've known for awhile because they really could care less about me and I'm tired of being their doormat.

I pretty much have zero friends but I am in the process of trying to make some new friendships but the process is really difficult. I tried looking for people with similar interest as me and found a really nice group of people who like to get together and play board games. I am okay going over there and hanging out but sometimes when they try and joke around or high five me or give me hugs good bye I start freaking out. Some of them will try and talk to me on MSN or something but that scares me too... but it's starting to freak me out a lot. It's kind of like they try and make conversation and I am like WHOA SLOW DOWN! Too much talking. I don't know if I can handle it, there's something about it all that makes me really uncomfortable and I think about avoiding them and just running away. But I haven't met a nice and accepting group of people in so long I feel like I need to just deal with it.

I have been out here for two years and I haven't really hung out with anyone besides these people I just recently met. Sometimes I sit and think about how I have been here so long and all I do is sit at home all day long and go outside to walk my dog. There are a group of people in my same building who are all friendly and hang out with each other. I have been walking past them for a year and I still don't know them.

I have a handful of online friends but not too many. Sometimes it's really difficult because I don't know how to push past that barrier of chatting casually and making jokes to having a real actual conversation and being close with someone. I would like to get a lot more people to talk to, because the nights and days are mighty lonely sitting inside your apartment all day.

I have 2 best friends and a sister which i'm really close with. I have had friends over the past years but that didn't worked out so well. It was oke, but i couldn't maintain them. We just went our separate ways and when they wanted to stay in touch, i let them down. I think mine main problem is not to just make friends but keeping them. I always think they don't want to hang out with me and they're just asking me out to be polite.

Snowbal said:

I have 2 best friends and a sister which i'm really close with. I have had friends over the past years but that didn't worked out so well. It was oke, but i couldn't maintain them. We just went our separate ways and when they wanted to stay in touch, i let them down. I think mine main problem is not to just make friends but keeping them. I always think they don't want to hang out with me and they're just asking me out to be polite.

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I have the very same problem. I am never the one to initiate in the friendship. I always feel like I am bothering people just by being around them, and thus never say or do anything pro-active. I definitely want to change this very quickly. It's so simple in principle, but the thought processes and feelings behind them are incredibly convoluted. Frustration! @_@

TheAristocrat said:

I have the very same problem. I am never the one to initiate in the friendship. I always feel like I am bothering people just by being around them, and thus never say or do anything pro-active. I definitely want to change this very quickly. It's so simple in principle, but the thought processes and feelings behind them are incredibly convoluted. Frustration! @_@

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Exactly. I always see myself as the friend they ask just to do her a favor.
It seems so simple and my sister is always complaining about the way i think and see things. She tells me that i'm making life so hard for myself. She's right but i just can't help it. I think it's a lot to do with our self esteem. If we don't think we're fun to hang out with, why would other do so?

I have never had friends in real life which I think has been a big problem and something I always lament when feeling down. Everyone else in the world seems to have all their own friends, even though I know there are people like me it's difficult to think like this when you are really down.

I still don't have any real life friends but I am a bit more optimistic about it. This year I set myself the goal of making some online friends, as I saw many here mention them, I'd never had any. So I've been "getting myself out there" in the online world lol and have made a few online friends! Now I just need to make the jump into the real world

I have one friend. Zero online friends.

My friends are *very* successful people. Doctors, engineers, teachers... etc. I think a couple are already millionaires. They're generally nice people, but I avoid them now. No longer on the same wavelength.