I've yet to meet a woman who wants a guy to treat her like ****. There's a difference between being a "nice guy" and being a pushover. Women aren't really attracted to a guy who is needy, clingy, and desperate.
I can sympathize, I've slipped into this mindset myself when I was depressed and lonely. It's easier to play the victim. But the idea that all women want "jerks" and only "jerks" get women is ridiculous.
Women want the same thing guys want. Someone they find attractive, with common interests, and a compatible personality.