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Serafina said:
Feel free to join in. That's what most people do and I hope that everyone feels at home here. Don't feel that this is a case where the poplular kids exclude the unpopular kids. This isn't high school and we're all pretty much in the same boat. I hope you don't think that we're all the same here. The common denominator here is SA, but even that affects us differently.

I don't have a problem including anyone and I think I can speak for most people on this forum when I say that the same goes for others. I was attempting to joke around with you with my first reply. I think most people were trying to include you and not ridicule you. Feelings of frustration, alienation, lonliness are not new to the members of this forum.
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I have problem with not being able to post anymore kitten pictures >.>
 
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gettingbetter said:
I'm just saying that i get ANXIOUS and INTIMIDATED by people like you, that post random "popular" comments. It makes me think of all the popular types that used to be in school....

I'm not against humour at all, i just see alot of it posted in serious topics. there are off topic threads etc.

I'm not here to argue with people, i dont think anxiety forums are here to pick fights with people. I just felt frustrated and alienated because of all that random clique talk, and feeling like no one will like me because i'm different.

Which is probably VERY funny to you guys.
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You see... those people you talk about and the people in this place are VERY different. The people in your school probably didn't have much empathy, probably didn't know how to take others seriously, probably some were bullies, immature ones, in resume... most of them were "normal" people and reacted like such.
The people here understand how you feel. If you ever have any problem, if you need support, you will be taken seriously, you won't be treated different, you won't be put aside or anything. Just because you see some jokes here or some random posts, it doesn't mean we are like those kids at school. If we were constantly talking about bad stuff, all the time, it would be really depressing... The whole forum is probably made of 80% negativity, so a few jokes, some clowning is healthy, in my opinion. Sometimes, a single joke here might cheer someone up, how isn't that supportive? how isn't that helpful?

I understand you and I understand how you feel, but please, try seeing the difference between those people at your school and those here. We aren't the same thing just because of a few jokes.

As for those who have posted pics and other random things, maybe you shouldn't joke at someone who's talking seriously. If someone here has something to say, it should be heard and respected (as long as it's not harrassment or something). If someone is worried about the jokes, thinks someone might treat them differently, coming here and posting those things might be like confirming that person's worrys. I understand perfectly that joking is healthy in a forum like this, but try to place yourself in the other's shoes for a moment. If you were talking seriously, if you were worried about something like this, would you like it if others start acting random? Wouldn't you feel a little paranoid about the situation?

Sorry if I sound too serious by the way. I'm not intending to make anyone feel bad, It's just my opinion.
 
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Hellhound said:
You see... those people you talk about and the people in this place are VERY different. The people in your school probably didn't have much empathy, probably didn't know how to take others seriously, probably some were bullies, immature ones, in resume... most of them were "normal" people and reacted like such.
The people here understand how you feel. If you ever have any problem, if you need support, you will be taken seriously, you won't be treated different, you won't be put aside or anything. Just because you see some jokes here or some random posts, it doesn't mean we are like those kids at school. If we were constantly talking about bad stuff, all the time, it would be really depressing... The whole forum is probably made of 80% negativity, so a few jokes, some clowning is healthy, in my opinion. Sometimes, a single joke here might cheer someone up, how isn't that supportive? how isn't that helpful?

I understand you and I understand how you feel, but please, try seeing the difference between those people at your school and those here. We aren't the same thing just because of a few jokes.

As for those who have posted pics and other random things, maybe you shouldn't joke at someone who's talking seriously. If someone here has something to say, it should be heard and respected (as long as it's not harrassment or something). If someone is worried about the jokes, thinks someone might treat them differently, coming here and posting those things might be like confirming that person's worrys. I understand perfectly that joking is healthy in a forum like this, but try to place yourself in the other's shoes for a moment. If you were talking seriously, if you were worried about something like this, would you like it if others start acting random? Wouldn't you feel a little paranoid about the situation?

Sorry if I sound too serious by the way. I'm not intending to make anyone feel bad, It's just my opinion.
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Sure, i appreciate that. But it would be nice to put this behind me now so i can not feel embarrased any more. The "cat picture" guy (nack) can stop trying now....seriously i only think he's still trying to wind me up.

By all means post cat pics on your own thread, but continuing to do it here is just trying to wind me up, surely?

Sure, its good to have a laugh, as long as its not overly offensive, or at someones expense.

I have felt very paranoid, but its nice that people like yourself and serafina can have a balanced response. Thanks, it makes me feel better.
 
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Raz said:
And yes I, personally, don't care. You should try to relax though. If not here, then where?
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If people gave up and forgot about all this the i'd be able to relax. I can understand why celebrities get so agitated, because people wont leave them alone, and make them feel like victims.

I need help to feel at ease. You cant expect everyone to be full of confidence and understand everyone else.
 
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I see. Well I doubt anyone will care about this in the future. Maybe some mod can delete this thread if it makes you feel better?

I personally won't care. :)
 
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Raz said:
I see. Well I doubt anyone will care about this in the future. Maybe some mod can delete this thread if it makes you feel better?

I personally won't care. :)
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Its probably better if it stays, so people might learn (from both sides) how not to go about socialising. lol, i said lol right there.

I dont think anyone cares anymore which is good.
 
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