I am shy and I don't drink... Obviously I don't like parties because of all the people in a small place and what not. I am kind of scared of talking to girls even if it is just to say hi that is so hard for me to do... What can I do in this situation.
Kudos to you for not drinking nor liking parties. I'm the same way. And honestly, I can take your question and turn it around to say "How to meet guys at college if you are shy?" The common misconception that I see on these kinds of forms is that people think it is easier for a girl to meet guys if she is shy, but
wrongo! It's plenty hard, almost impossible, for me any ways. So, I feel your pain.
I don't like parties, and I have a horrible time meeting people. Most people seem to be uneasy around me anyways since I'm so shy. I'm a really nice person, but people don't seem to want to give me a chance, even if I am talking to them in class and all.
I would love to meet a nice guy that I have things in common with. Unfortunately, the only interest any guy has shown in me lately is this one guy who is freakishly into guns. I'm okay with guns, but he's like, completely obsessed with them and it makes me nervous. And even though I told him that I don't like to drink, he kept pressuring me into going out to drink with him. Plus, he's quite a few years older than me, and we don't have the same sense of humor, nor much in common.
But I never pursued him, and he never pursued me (until now). All this just happened kind of by accident, really fast. It's hard to explain, long story.
If I had it my way, I would ask out this other guy in my class that I am really interested in. He has a really good sense of humor, down to earth like me, but he's not into me or else he would ask me out. But me....ask
him out? Hell no. I am way too terrified. I don't really know what to do about it either.
No guys ever take interest in me (with that one freak-accidental exception), and even if they do, they don't tell me. And I'm too scared to pursue them. So, at this rate I'll be alone forever. Especially since I hide any evidence of my personality when I am out of my comfort zone.
I am not helping here, but what to do in this situation? I don't want to say "go to a party" like some others have said here. I'd say, join a club, or join a religious community (if you are religious). I'm not a believer, so I'm out on that one. I've been thinking of joining a club though. Don't know if it will get me anywhere, but it's worth a shot.
Good luck to you.