Hi everyone, I'm new to the forum and was hoping I could get some advice.
First, I'm a 26 yo female and have always been pretty shy, especially when it comes to men. I have a hard time holding a conversation with anyone except my mother most of the time. Small talk to me is like torture. I even get shy around my best friends that I've known since elementary school.
Here is my problem. There is a guy at work that thinks I'm cute and wants to get to know me better. His friend basically told me this and asked (without his permission) whether I was interested. I basically told her the truth. I thought he was cute, but I'm a loner. I like to be by myself. Well, she told him that he should ask me out anyways even though I told her otherwise. So he did try to ask me out and I told him that I didn't want to go out with anyone. Then about a week later he was bugging me about giving him my number and finally I just did because I was sick of him asking. About 15 minutes after giving him my number he called me. That was ok I guess, but then he told me to call him when I woke up later that day. (We work overnight so I sleep during the day) The next day he was texting me at work, but I left my phone home by accident. When I checked it he had sent "Hey sexy." I know this sounds weird, but it bothered me. A lot. I felt really uncomfortable and it made me instantly not like him. For the past couple of days he has been calling me, but I don't answer. Is that wrong? I am very, very, very naive when it comes to relationships and I just don't know how to deal with him. I have to see him at work in a couple of days and I am afraid I hurt his feelings. What do I say? He has had my number for 3 days and I already feel suffocated by him. I'm really freaking out about seeing him Saturday night at work. Help!
First, I'm a 26 yo female and have always been pretty shy, especially when it comes to men. I have a hard time holding a conversation with anyone except my mother most of the time. Small talk to me is like torture. I even get shy around my best friends that I've known since elementary school.
Here is my problem. There is a guy at work that thinks I'm cute and wants to get to know me better. His friend basically told me this and asked (without his permission) whether I was interested. I basically told her the truth. I thought he was cute, but I'm a loner. I like to be by myself. Well, she told him that he should ask me out anyways even though I told her otherwise. So he did try to ask me out and I told him that I didn't want to go out with anyone. Then about a week later he was bugging me about giving him my number and finally I just did because I was sick of him asking. About 15 minutes after giving him my number he called me. That was ok I guess, but then he told me to call him when I woke up later that day. (We work overnight so I sleep during the day) The next day he was texting me at work, but I left my phone home by accident. When I checked it he had sent "Hey sexy." I know this sounds weird, but it bothered me. A lot. I felt really uncomfortable and it made me instantly not like him. For the past couple of days he has been calling me, but I don't answer. Is that wrong? I am very, very, very naive when it comes to relationships and I just don't know how to deal with him. I have to see him at work in a couple of days and I am afraid I hurt his feelings. What do I say? He has had my number for 3 days and I already feel suffocated by him. I'm really freaking out about seeing him Saturday night at work. Help!