Hello everyone. I won't make this some big fancy introductory post because... Well, I'm not that interesting. And we can thank that to? Social anxiety! Ding ding ding!
I've had this since I can remember, but its been getting worse for about 10 years now. I'm 21, live with my grandmother, need a job and can't get one. Fantastic right?
I went onto a loosely labeled 'anxiety chat' last night, asking about some questions and they basically told me to get off my 'lazy' bum and go work.
OH GEE! I didn't think of that. I'm so glad you cured me with your words of wisdom and knowledge. :thumbdown:
So in a mental-breakdown state of self worthlessness I began searching on google and found here. I crashed at a wopping 4 am before I was able to come in and write my questions.
So here I go...
I'm only 21, I feel like I can't do anything. I cannot go into public places by myself. I cannot talk in front of people. I cannot talk TO people. I cannot ask people questions and GOD forbid I have to go into a restaurant by myself because I will just stare at them until I pass out. :kickingmyself:. But I need a job?
And it's not a matter of' keep trying' 'its in your head' 'it'll get better' 'just push yourself to do it'
Because I've tried.
I've tried for three years. I've tried going to college, I've tried applying for jobs. I've tried everything I can think of and I cant do it.
It's like telling someone whos scared of flying and heights to go skydiving. You get the arguments "ITS NOT GONNA KILL YOU"
IF rabbits can die from fear, so can I.
I don't understand why people can rationalize the fear of spiders and know "Okay, i'm being rude if I show an arachnophobic a spider"
but forcing someone whos got Social Phobia into a crowd is seen as 'curing them'.
My grandmother and I live off her SSDI and that's it. We run out of food about 2 weeks to the end of the month and we have to go borrow money from my mother to get food, we pay her back next time- only to now have a shortage on the next check.
I was thinking about applying for SSI. But there's like... 100 different issues:
You have to go apply... in person.
You have to talk to people.
You have to go to a psychologist (See problem 2)
I'm only 21.
People look at me and think I'm just some lazy piece of trash wanting to mooch off the government. I don't know what else to do, though? I physically CAN NOT get a job. :crying: Any advice would be severely appreciated. Thank you for reading.
I've had this since I can remember, but its been getting worse for about 10 years now. I'm 21, live with my grandmother, need a job and can't get one. Fantastic right?
I went onto a loosely labeled 'anxiety chat' last night, asking about some questions and they basically told me to get off my 'lazy' bum and go work.
OH GEE! I didn't think of that. I'm so glad you cured me with your words of wisdom and knowledge. :thumbdown:
So in a mental-breakdown state of self worthlessness I began searching on google and found here. I crashed at a wopping 4 am before I was able to come in and write my questions.
So here I go...
I'm only 21, I feel like I can't do anything. I cannot go into public places by myself. I cannot talk in front of people. I cannot talk TO people. I cannot ask people questions and GOD forbid I have to go into a restaurant by myself because I will just stare at them until I pass out. :kickingmyself:. But I need a job?
And it's not a matter of' keep trying' 'its in your head' 'it'll get better' 'just push yourself to do it'
Because I've tried.
I've tried for three years. I've tried going to college, I've tried applying for jobs. I've tried everything I can think of and I cant do it.
It's like telling someone whos scared of flying and heights to go skydiving. You get the arguments "ITS NOT GONNA KILL YOU"
IF rabbits can die from fear, so can I.
I don't understand why people can rationalize the fear of spiders and know "Okay, i'm being rude if I show an arachnophobic a spider"
but forcing someone whos got Social Phobia into a crowd is seen as 'curing them'.
My grandmother and I live off her SSDI and that's it. We run out of food about 2 weeks to the end of the month and we have to go borrow money from my mother to get food, we pay her back next time- only to now have a shortage on the next check.
I was thinking about applying for SSI. But there's like... 100 different issues:
You have to go apply... in person.
You have to talk to people.
You have to go to a psychologist (See problem 2)
I'm only 21.
People look at me and think I'm just some lazy piece of trash wanting to mooch off the government. I don't know what else to do, though? I physically CAN NOT get a job. :crying: Any advice would be severely appreciated. Thank you for reading.