I also have been more attracted to people after finding out that they like me. I think this is probably pretty common for people with SA, since most of us have a strong fear of being judged. I think we do it because, when we find out about them liking us, part of our fear of being judged is taken away. Whereas with
other people, we are less likely to feel attracted to them because we're afraid of being let down, afraid that they won't like us back.
do you think by being so eager to accept this you arent being genuine in your feelings?
Yes I definitely do feel like I'm not being genuine when that happens. But I try to imagine that the person didn't show interest in me, and ask myself if I would still be interested in them. But really, I think you/we might be overanalyzing this...I mean, if you started going out with someone, the novelty of their attraction to you would wear off after a while, wouldn't it? So, if the relationship lasts, then there is something real between you two. But I've never had a girlfriend so what do I know? :wink:
I suggest that you read one of those "Last Personal Stories" in the bottom left corner of the site, the one by Chris. At one point he talks (only briefly tho) about marrying the first woman that showed any interest in him, which ended in a divorce.