Kaya said:I agree with you, there are other therapies that work well for people, and my comment that it might be the only solution perhaps applies to only some people.
When I say that people have to give up their dreams, I mean the dreams that go "When my SA has been cured I can finally go out and be X, or do X". By accepting and imbracing the condition you can change those dreams to "I have SA/ SP and I am going to go out and be X, and do X anyway."
I don't mean you should give up any hope, and I certainly don't think that having SA/SP means a life outside society - I have achieved many things in my life, despite the fear, I have had some good friendships and relationships. At the end of the day I am the only one who is punishing myself for not being perfect, if I can accept my imperfections I will no doubt continue to be shy and sweat and shake and blush and panic, but it won't bother me as much and therefore the syptoms will reduce by themselves. So far from retreating from the world and living like a dog, I will be able to go out there and do what I want in all my nervous glory!!
[/quote]the idea of giving up on your dreams of ever being normal and simply accepting the way you are does not sound like a positive solution. It sounds more like an existence rather than a life. Accepting that you are essentially going to live your life outside of society makes me think you may as well be a dog or go live as wild man in the woods.
[/quote]the idea of giving up on your dreams of ever being normal and simply accepting the way you are does not sound like a positive solution. It sounds more like an existence rather than a life. Accepting that you are essentially going to live your life outside of society makes me think you may as well be a dog or go live as wild man in the woods.
[/quote]I used to think that the best way to get over SP was to be perfect, to be the best, to be faultless, but then I realised that that was exactly what was causing the SP and to get past it I had to realise that I am just an average human being, with a few weird quirks like panic attacks, just the same as someone else might have ecsma or ears that stick our, or bad teeth. We all have our faults, mine are no worse than others, and thinking they are is another one of my faults...