Born a virgin...Die a virgin
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Felgen
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With all the sex pressure of 2010, sex is no longer superficial stuff. Love-shy men can't "choose" to lose it either.
I don't for one minite think that being raped counts for losing virginity, be a little more sensitive
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Scars
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Felgen
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Depends on how old the person is. I was love-shy at the age of 20, but I managed to overcome it by accepting the fact that I had to take the initiative instead of waiting for someone to take it for me.
On the other hand, if you're 30 and love-shy, it's over unless you're very lucky.
Scars
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Explain to me the difference between an incurable mental condition and an incurable disease. I'd love to hear it.
Felgen
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Beeing a virgin and beeing love-shy aren't exactly the same. A love-shy person is person that has never had sex and never had a meaningful relationship. Two 30-year-olds who are engaged, but who pledge to wait until marriage to have sex, aren't 'love-shy'.
I'm not saying that it's an incurable disease, but people are picky when it comes to experience--thus making it harder to overcome the older you get.
Silentknight
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I agree with you on this. Even though right now I've given up on the finding a special someone for the moment I haven't given up forever instead I'm just focusing on getting myself to a better place and then I'll start back up on trying to find a relationship it's just a real pain if your an avoidant like myself and can't help but spend hours wishing you had someone special but can't take the inniative out of an extreme fear of rejection but I have to hold on to hope.
Scars
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Overcoming SA and shyness is NOT the same as being cured of it. If it were, symptoms wouldn't return in some cases after stressful or traumatic events. That's called treatment, which is completely different.
I need a stress ball...
agoraphobickatie
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Overcoming SA and shyness is NOT the same as being cured of it. If it were, symptoms wouldn't return in some cases after stressful or traumatic events. That's called treatment, which is completely different.
I need a stress ball...
SA and all of our other bullsh!t issues could very well be considered incureable diseases... what we can do is cope and overcome, like you said... but you don't cope with AIDS, you die from it.
...and on topic-- this whole 'i'm going to die a virgin' complaint is really tired, and i'm sorry. i'm sure i'll sound like a total bitch here, but whatever.. there are babies, kids, young adults who struggle their entire lives with illness, disease and all forms of cancer who die virgins every day.. i wish for them, that their biggest concern was dying without having sex. because for some reason, i highly doubt that it is..... we aren't here to lose our virginity, that's not what life is about.
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Pookah
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I'm hoping what they mean here is less about the sex part and more about the human affection/intimacy part. Many people would choose not to live if they knew for sure no one would ever love them/touch them in their lifetime....humans are predominantly social and tactile creatures in this way. Babies don't develop correctly without touch & affection for instance.
socialphobic38
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only problem i don't have but cheer up, youll find someone, theres someone for everyone even tho i know its hard to feel that way when you're single
iamthenra
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EXACTLY!!! Also, if this is on your: "do this before I die list" and SA / depression or whatever disorder is preventing it, then what? I understand what Katie is saying, and yeah the whole I am going to die a virgin thing does get kinda old here... But there is allot more to the quality of life argument, that if I am going to be here and it would seem that most adults have experienced "love" and "sex" or some form of intimacy or romance, then it is a valid complaint. Not that complaining is going to do anything about the predicament. It is a need of all humans to have love and belonging according to Maslow. Going through life without love is very depressing.
Hmm, there's always prostitution. It's legal in your country. If you're talking about love and intimacy, well, that's another story.
agoraphobickatie
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yes, i was just referring to the fact that the title of this thread is "born a virgin...die a virgin" and it is a well known common complaint around here..
love, lust, true intimacy, all that is different, and i get it... i'm sorry, i just get tippy about 'complaints' and those who spend more time doing it than doing something about it..