Helmaninquiel
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You are so cute! There is nothing hotter then a guy who is shy and insecure I find.
There is nothing hotter then a guy who is shy and insecure I find.
You are so cute! There is nothing hotter then a guy who is shy and insecure I find.
Once I get comfortable, I can make friends rather easily. I have more guy friends than I do girls though, once a friend starts to see me as something more I regress right back into stage one...like we're just now meeting for the first time. I can't look him in the eyes, I feel like since he's seeing me as more he'll be more aware of what I do i.e. finding all my faults. When you're friends it's nothing, they don't think about the stuff that you do really so I'm alright. But then I get reserved, I get so nervous and in my head that I psych myself to the point where I will literally not interact with them at all.
Then they wonder why I'm acting totally different, I'm sure they think I'm playing games with them which hurts because that's never my intention and then they disappear. Not that I blame them :: so I'm left alone once again because of myself.
God i wish it was that easy.
Its just not fun. I haven't been able to control my anxiety around her. I would get so scared and freak out when she was around to the point i'd have to leave the room, look away, pretend i was taking to someone else, find another exit/entrance so not walk by her, look out a window before speaking to her, etc.
Turning her down was terrible because the woman (coworker, nice lady) who approached me was like "You act differently around her, you don't treat her like the rest of us, you never give her crap about stuff and never tease or play jokes on her...are you sure you don't like her, she's such a pretty girl?"
All i could manage to say repeatedly is that I wasn't interested. When she didn't seem to believe me (i don't think even SHE does either) i started saying thinks like "Oh i am dating now" and "Nah..i can't i'm seeing people!" it was horrible! Than the woman came back and was like "Ok, well i told her what you said and she said than that would be it, she won't bring it up again and she will just forget about it and move on..." and that was on Wednesday.
Ever since then...she won't look at me AT ALL...i said "Good Morning" to her on Thursday & Friday and she couldn't look at me just kinda gave me a 'hey' with her head down and quickly walked passed me..practically running away. I looked her right in the eyes (not an easy thing for me b4 i was approached) and she just looked like she was going to die!!!!!She will probably try to avoid me all this week. Itried hanging out when i saw her but she seemed more annoyed by me than anything else.
I had heard rumors that she liked me for sometime...she told a few people i guess, i imagine she is shy in her own way and very conservative as well. She's obviously hurt now. I just don't know what i'm supposed to do. I can actually say 'hello' and 'Good Morning' to her NOW (lol) with ease even though she doesn't want me to obviously but i just can't seem to do much else. NO ONE knows how i feel about her, i don't do that sort of thing, apparently she tells people she likes me, at least she did! I think she hates me now.
What should i do?
you are a good looking guy, ::I've never had girls being attracted to me...Well not obviously attracted to me, but i seem to have this sign on me saying ''Keep away from me girls!'' because that what it feels like. I feel i have no charisma o'r good looks and body which would make girls be attracted to me. Oh well! Life sucks
I've never had girls being attracted to me...Well not obviously attracted to me, but i seem to have this sign on me saying ''Keep away from me girls!'' because that what it feels like. I feel i have no charisma o'r good looks and body which would make girls be attracted to me. Oh well! Life sucks
For me is similar.... I am friendly and I can talk easy if I know the guy is not interested in my or I dont feel any interest. But if I feel an atraction for the guy or if I think he wants something more. In the first case I lose confidence, want to cry, my voice starts chaking and more. And if I feel the guy wants something more, I close up and put up a mean face and avoid any contact.... I think they think I am a b...
So I think that shyness has made me turn some guys away that liked me...::
So, what if its a girl your not REALLY attracted to..do you think you could kiss, date, have sex then??? Just curious..thanks so much
So, what if its a girl your not REALLY attracted to..do you think you could kiss, date, have sex then??? Just curious..thanks so much
Personally, it is very difficult for me to be intimate with anyone. And because it takes such an effort to do anything, I will only really try if I am very attracted to and emotionally connected with a person. Otherwise it is meaningless and just not worth the effort and I do not bother.