Every time things I think that are going great with a shy guy I've been talking to he pulls back big time. He would ignore all messages I send him until he feels ready to return and talk to me. At first I thought he might have been pulling some PUA stuff on me so I waited it out. But every time we do talk things between us would be AMAZING. :applause:
So far these are the explanations he's given me:
1) he doesn't think he is attractive
2) he's not the showy kind of person
3) expressing his emotions makes him feel weak
4) he's very passive
5) he's shy
At first the silence would go on for 3 days, then 2 weeks then hovered between 2-3 weeks and now it's been 4 weeks. :kickingmyself:
Whenever he comes back there would be tons of apologies and explanations and then things would be AMAZING again for a few weeks and then BAM! I don't know what hit me and radio silence all over again.
So over the course of almost a year now these are the things I've tried. I've got 2 approaches to this. I either wait it out and mirror his silence or I would text every few days to see if I would get a response. I would send cute messages. songs, funny messages to make him smile or laugh and occasionally some flirty ones too. He's either responded or ignored to everything I've tried. If I use the reaching out to him method he would respond maybe every few days if he's feeling alright but sometimes there's always that period of completely ignoring me.
So my question for you guys is: Should I leave him alone when he withdraws or should I bite the bullet and continue to send him messages even with the chance of him ignoring me completely? :question:
So far these are the explanations he's given me:
1) he doesn't think he is attractive
2) he's not the showy kind of person
3) expressing his emotions makes him feel weak
4) he's very passive
5) he's shy
At first the silence would go on for 3 days, then 2 weeks then hovered between 2-3 weeks and now it's been 4 weeks. :kickingmyself:
Whenever he comes back there would be tons of apologies and explanations and then things would be AMAZING again for a few weeks and then BAM! I don't know what hit me and radio silence all over again.
So over the course of almost a year now these are the things I've tried. I've got 2 approaches to this. I either wait it out and mirror his silence or I would text every few days to see if I would get a response. I would send cute messages. songs, funny messages to make him smile or laugh and occasionally some flirty ones too. He's either responded or ignored to everything I've tried. If I use the reaching out to him method he would respond maybe every few days if he's feeling alright but sometimes there's always that period of completely ignoring me.
So my question for you guys is: Should I leave him alone when he withdraws or should I bite the bullet and continue to send him messages even with the chance of him ignoring me completely? :question: