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I read where social anxiety is seen as not being a real fear.

They talk about the flight or fight response and that the danger is not real, like our ancestors being chased by Sabre toothed tigers was. The fear of social anxiety I see as a different fear; the fear of not being able to fit in, to be so different to be excluded socially. Human beings need to fit into a group, to be able to relate t other people in the group. This was important for an individuals survival in the cave man times, and it is still important now.

I'm not sure I agree that social fear is not a real fear. Having a mental illness can lead to sufferers not being accepted, of being seen a different, to being labelled as weird, strange and creepy, to being excluded. I think that is very dangerous, and soul destroying for a human being, it can lead to complete undermining of a feeling of worth as a human being. Survival in modern civilisation requires the social skills to hold down a job, to link with other people for a whole range of reasons.

To fit in, to belong, is something fundamental to a human being a social animal. And it is dangerous to be so different to be shunned and excluded socially, it may not be an imminent threat to survival, but a slower more insidious undermining of mental and physical health, which in the long term can affect mortality and longevity, it is a real fear.
^ My guess is whoever wrote what you read and those who also believe that social anxiety is "not a real fear" have not had much to do with people who actually suffer from it.
Sadly there is still a long way to go, even for many in the medical professions, to fully understand mental illness. :sad:
 
^I don't think life is supposed to be anything. Can we know for sure that the well-achieved lawyer made this world a better place than some fisherman who never got out of his island and who's life was like a long quiet river? I don't think so. In fact I don't think it is the case.
^ So true, Loner! :thumbup:
 

nodejesque

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I just wrote then erased like five different thoughts have been plaguing my mind.

I don't know why I do that. Delete delete delete.
 
I just wrote then erased like five different thoughts have been plaguing my mind.

I don't know why I do that. Delete delete delete.

Aye, same here... :bigsmile: Though, mine wus more just me ragin' at ma ain inability to function like a normal person. :kickingmyself:

Sometimes just writing something out changes your mind about the thought in question. It can lose its urgency and power because of it, making way for self conciousness and doubt.

I nearly didn't post this one.
 

nodejesque

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Sometimes just writing something out changes your mind about the thought in question. It can lose its urgency and power because of it, making way for self conciousness and doubt.

I nearly didn't post this one.


This is exactly what happens to me. I write something down.... At the moment I'm certain and have feelings that motivate me to write such thoughts, as soon as I am done.... I feel as though I have already purged them. Reading them back, I feel silly and self conscious to even share them.

Even those thoughts that still linger and torment me, I feel are inadequate.

Anyway. Thank you both for posting. I am sorry that you feel this way too, but I feel less freakish knowing I'm not alone in that.
 

PerseverareJasmine

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Yes co-worker who feels the need to comment on it whenever you see me, I know that I'm quiet. No, it doesn't mean I'm plotting against you, at least not at the moment.
 

GraybeardGhost

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Three messages in one day sent forth to whisk about the ether. All I can do for now. I shouldn't be worn out from just a bit of typing, but I could sleep for a week. Why am I always so damn tired?

ETA: Also, I just realized that I've lost about two hours out of this evening. Where did they go? :idontknow:

It's so much fun being crazy. :eek:h:
 
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I just pulled a hair clog out of shower drain that was over a meter/forty inches in length. I pulled slowly at first and it seemed like there was no end to it. It must've been collecting for years.

No wonder the water wasn't draining right.
 

Kiwong

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I am a fundamentally broken human being, it is amazing that I am still alive at 53, but I have been through so much I wonder when that will take its toll.
 
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Something-Vague

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Anyone else totally miffed when they are watching a youtube video and the volume cascades through the whole spectrum of volume control throughout the video with REALLY HIGH, really low, and somewhere in between parts? Or, you're watching a video that's quiet and then the end BLARES music?
 

nodejesque

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I just pulled a hair clog out of shower drain that was over a meter/forty inches in length. I pulled slowly at first and it seemed like there was no end to it. It must've been collecting for years.

No wonder the water wasn't draining right.

I keep con mg back to this thread, and every time I read this.... I cringe.

I grew up with a bunch of sisters.... I remember pulling the hair out. Gah.
 

Ithior

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Great, I'm wasting 5 hours that I could be using to study because I have no light in my room (other than a small desk lamp).
There was some problem with the main light in my room that requires an electricist to come over and fix it. This actually happened over a year ago, but my mum just refuses to get someone here to fix it, giving all sorts of excuses. For the past year I've had a crappy floor lamp that didn't give me enough light to study at night, but at least it allowed me to see the whole room. Now I don't even have that because it's broken. I seriously hope my mum doesn't delay this any longer because it's getting ridiculous.
 
This is exactly what happens to me. I write something down.... At the moment I'm certain and have feelings that motivate me to write such thoughts, as soon as I am done.... I feel as though I have already purged them. Reading them back, I feel silly and self conscious to even share them.

Even those thoughts that still linger and torment me, I feel are inadequate.

Anyway. Thank you both for posting. I am sorry that you feel this way too, but I feel less freakish knowing I'm not alone in that.
I have the same problem with writing and posting my posts too, node, Graeme, Puma. :eek:h:
And yes while it is comforting to read that I am not alone with this posting problem, It is also sad that there are probably more of us in here that suffer with actually posting what we have written. :sad:
 
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