cosmosis said:
I enjoy your posts and the help you give, but I think most of this thread might be a bit of a discouragement for people who have anything more than just mild anxiety.
A discouragement would be: "Don't even try." This thread is an encouragement.
cosmosis said:
Anyone with any significant anxiety would just get discouraged putting any of this into action.
That's a generalization, and a defeatist attitude. Personally when I hit rock bottom, I was willing to try anything. This stuff works. It's been tested by thousands of guys with no social skills whatsoever.
cosmosis said:
If they are not in the mindset they would probably just see it as another failure, regardless of success.
Another generalization. Typically when someone has success, they regard it as a success. The right mindset is to say "There's no such thing as failure, only feedback."
cosmosis said:
I know with me, I had to first work on myself before I could even contemplate a proper relationship.
This IS a way of working on yourself.
cosmosis said:
Atleast that's my opinion, but its possibly helpful for some here who are at the right point.
To anyone who thinks they're not at the "right point" yet, I say this: Stop waiting for the right time and the right place. It's easy to get stuck in your comfort zone. Before you know it 10 years will go by and nothing will have changed. It's up to us to take control of our own lives. Right here and right now.
cosmosis said:
I'm all for evolutionary psychology, but its a guiding force, not a overpowering dominate force.
It is definitely a dominate force. It's instinct!
cosmosis said:
If it was, then ugly girls would never find anyone (we know that's not true) and weak flimsy guys wouldn't either (not true either).
Sure they do - they find each other!
cosmosis said:
I think there are an equal amount of women who don't care for alpha males as there are males who are not alpha at all.
They might say they don't care; they might even THINK they don't care, but attraction is not a choice. This stuff is hardwired into our brains. Men are attracted to physical beauty, women are attracted to alpha male characteristics. We can't control it.
Day_Tripper said:
Well let me ask you personally, what kind of person were you before you learned this stuff? Because there's a huge difference between simply being a bit shy around girls, and being withdrawn from people in general.
Of course there's a difference. I had extreme generalized social anxiety. This stuff has changed the lives of thousands of people who were complete social failures.