What is with the hostility towards someone who is trying to be a positive force on these dead forums?
No one is forcing you to read his threads, all hes trying to do is help.
I agree. He's one of the best posters on this site.
What is with the hostility towards someone who is trying to be a positive force on these dead forums?
No one is forcing you to read his threads, all hes trying to do is help.
HAHAHA, you know the lingo eh?
Yes I sarge
I used to approach girls more but in the past year or so I've lost all confidence and really haven't been trying.
I used to approach girls more but in the past year or so I've lost all confidence and really haven't been trying.
Damn, that shit is frustrating when it happens.
Thing is, when I have a relapse and feel like shit for a week or something, I've noticed that I come out the other side that much stronger and more determined. Emotional pain leads to emotional strength, that's why I think the guys on this forum, and all of us who struggle(d) with social anxiety, have SO MUCH POTENTIAL!
Yeah I think people who are able to deal with social anxiety and other disorders are emotionally stronger than those who go about life without any crazy thoughts in their head.
It seems like only men are replying to this thread. I know there are women on this site. It would be interesting to hear their opinions as well.
Thousands of guys are out in nightclubs getting laid using this material. The art of attraction has been scientifically explained. And it can be learned.
This stuff is not about "manipulative" tactics. This is what guys who are naturally good with women DO without even knowing it. It's been broken down to a science so the not-so-lucky guys can learn it and have a chance at a little thing called LIFE.
To find someone that's really compatible, it takes lots and lots of relationship experience: trial and error. This means approaching lots of different women, which is basically asking someone with social anxiety to go through hell. Yeah, lots of emotional pain is involved with the process, but if you get good at it, lots of sex is involved with the process too. It's basically a trade: emotional pain for sex, and possibly love.
Riiya said:Knowing that thousands of guys do indeed use this book to get laid pisses me off.
Riiya said:I've spent half of my life trying to convince boys that they don't have to be these so-called "alpha males" to find a girl and be in a proper relationship (In fact, this is what one of the editorial reviews says: I never dated Neil Strauss, but I dated guys like him.
Riiya said:Like many New York women, I have always gone for balding, pale guys because they're grateful and good in bed.), and then threads like this show up.
Riiya said:As has been mentioned, you can't be who you're not.
Riiya said:What this book seems to do is make you feel inadequate when you're in fact a functioning human being.
Riiya said:What kind of "social skills" are you expecting to learn from a book about a pick-up artist anyway?
Riiya said:Women, first and foremost, are people.
Riiya said:You don't need any special skills to talk to them and get along with them, provided what you want is a real girlfriend and not someone who just want to be in bed with.
Riiya said:If your problem is that you have no social skills at all (that, and social anxiety), I'm almost sure this book won't be of much help to you.
Riiya said:Also, a book that tells you what women want? Yeah, hmm.... if there was a similar book about men I personally wouldn't buy it, but to each his own.
Riiya said:One thing I've been wondering, of course, is what kind of women exactly are you lonely male folks hoping to find?
Riiya said:From all the complaints I've read from self-proclaimed "nice guys," I've been getting the impression that they often desire someone who may be mistaken for a porn star while refusing to even consider their "nice girls" counterparts.
Riiya said:I don't care what evolutionary psychology has to say about the natural quest for the "best" genes, but what goes around comes around, Mister.
Riiya said:Yeah, well, guys who are naturally good with women are probably assholes without even knowing it.
Riiya said:What a load of crap. If you want lots of sex, just say so.
Riiya said:Notice the reaction of the three girls who have bothered reading and replying to this thread. Does that not say something?
I've not read through the whole thread but managed to spot "pick up artist" somewhere, probably in the opening post. That's utter nonsense, not at all a "science" and certainly doesn't work for everyone.
SickJoke, I think you rock. As a woman, I have to say I am attracted to men who are honest and straight forward. Just tell the truth and enough with the bullshit. Bullshit is a real turn-off.
What about our focus on our counterparts out there that don't like or require big Alpha males? Anxiety or not, I wouldn't want the women that this works the best on.
Sleeping wth lots of women requires a lot of trial and error and experience if that's what you want. But a simple deep relationship is as natural as anything in this world.
Everyone needs to be taught how to interact with women. Many people with SA never really learned the techniques like the others did. The others learned how by trial and error growing up... whereas many with SA were too afraid to ever even try.
But the point is... everyone has to LEARN social interaction skills. This is not "manipulation" because it's simply telling you what most of them (socially able with girls) already know and learned. So if you didn't learn them before.... the OP is sharing a way for you to learn them NOW. Better late than never, right?
I happen to have an older brother who is extremely good with women, naturally. Over the years he has flicked me a tip or two on how to pick up women. When I read the Game and started dabbling in the whole PUA world, almost all of the stuff he told me was confirmed one way or another. I don't think it's bullshit at all, but it certainly takes an assload of effort to get anywhere with it, and I think too many people are just plain too negative and too lazy. I should know, I'm one of them. But not for long.
Even though I know the OP had positive intentions with this thread, as soon as I saw the title of it I knew it was going to go down like a lead balloon.
When people are in the depths of there SAD, as it seems the majority of people on this site still are, things like this can seem a million miles away from being able to implement them into their life's, and as such, threads like this can come across somewhat patronising, even though it wasn't intended to be that way.
Whether you want to call it a skill, art, or science, doesn't matter. The fact is that it has already worked for those that can put it in to practice, and as such, it's not really open to discussion as to whether it can help people or not. It already has.
I think this info can be very helpful for those who's SAD is less acute/better than it once was, and are looking to improve there skills around women. For those who don't come into that category (probably most people here), don't flame the man for trying to help. Obviously if you're still in the midst of your SAD, then this would certainly be jumping in the deep end.
Even if only one person thinks (which it seems they already have) 'y'know, I'm a little better with my SAD these days, and this information could be useful to me at some point', then the thread has served its purpose.