Did you know you can overcome Social Anxiety Disorder?

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Razzlecherry

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Social Phobia Sufferers of the world unite!

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Haha, this is really lame.
 
kyle

kyle

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spearhunter said:
SA is not inherited, but learn behavior, But some people with specific genes are more likely to develop SA.
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It's not learned behaviour. At least not in my family. It's so genetic, it's not even funny. It seems to be worse for children under 8. Some in my family grow out of it, some don't.
 
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kc1296426

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BigJoe82 said:
it is hard to stay positive and have hope when i've had Social anxiety disorder my whole life. I am 30 years old and i've come pretty far from not talking at all to most people but my anxiety will never go away it is something i'll live with my whole life. i'll never be able to live alone i'll always dependent on someone. i've been to many doctors, psychiatrists, taken all sorts of medications, i even fell in love with someone and it still wasn't enough to break me out of the mold. i am not saying there isn't a chance for someone else but i've come to accept that this is just who i am and always will be.
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I just want people to know that isn't forever and it doesn't have to be something that has to affect your life negatively, just like depression. That's why there's mental health help to help you out there. So what if it didn't work for years but you can always still try. There's always hope. I'm sorry for your troubles though. Things do get better, especially if you keep trying. Just like alot of things in life. Be happy. Life is short, Do what makes you happy. I know you find a solution if it's still really bothering you, that's why they have help out there. Maybe you've done something wrong, be self-aware sometimes and admit mistakes. If not, then keep trying and put your best foot forward and try it all. There's nothing wrong with that at all.


The Lone Gunman said:
For some it CANT go away. Or at least some mental illnesses. Many are genetically inherited in family. It CAN however be managed to a maximum and coped with in many different healthy ways. But there is no cure. Thats not pessimism, its a medical scientific fact.

I dont have the time to look up sources to back this up, im at work right now. Maybe some ppl do sit like ducks, but that may also be due to a lack of understanding from those closest to them, instead of support they receive criticism and embarassment, which makes them very reluctant to "get out there". Its never as simple as just "going and getting the help". There are so many variables and no two peoples situations are the same. I may have a very difficult time with one thing while someone else with S/A has different circumstances and makes somthing else easy for me difficult for them. Many ppl have families who dont believe in any kind of mental illness. Many dont have vehicles. Many are scared to go out. Its just not that simple.

The idea and message is good. The information about help being there is good. But its the lives in which we live that themselves can be an obstacle. And that is a much bigger obstacle to overcome than anything else. That part alone can sometimes take YEARS.

I definately appreciate what your saying KC, and you definately bring food for thought. But.....things just arent as simple as we'd like.
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Of course sometimes it's not as simple as you'd like. And you're right, for some people it might take longer than others. But don't put yourself down like that. It doesn't have to take years, only if you let it. (or if there are other circumstances, I don't know your personal ones, but that's just assuming if your schedule is flexible and you are open-minded and dedicated and positive and knowing that people overcome this and that you can too)

Sorry if I dis-respected you
 
WishingICould

WishingICould

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kc1296426 said:
I just want people to know that isn't forever and it doesn't have to be something that has to affect your life negatively, just like depression. That's why there's mental health help to help you out there. So what if it didn't work for years but you can always still try. There's always hope. I'm sorry for your troubles though. Things do get better, especially if you keep trying. Just like alot of things in life. Be happy. Life is short, Do what makes you happy. I know you find a solution if it's still really bothering you, that's why they have help out there. Maybe you've done something wrong, be self-aware sometimes and admit mistakes. If not, then keep trying and put your best foot forward and try it all. There's nothing wrong with that at all.




Of course sometimes it's not as simple as you'd like. And you're right, for some people it might take longer than others. But don't put yourself down like that. It doesn't have to take years, only if you let it. (or if there are other circumstances, I don't know your personal ones, but that's just assuming if your schedule is flexible and you are open-minded and dedicated and positive and knowing that people overcome this and that you can too)

Sorry if I dis-respected you
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How do you know it isn't forever? Are you an expert? Do you suffer from SA? If you actually LISTENED you'd realise that people ARE helping themselves and getting treatment, therapy, whatever but sometimes it doesn't help. You're really starting to get on my nerves with your patronising, copy and pasted posts.
 
IntheLabyrinth

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WishingICould said:
My dad, me and both my sisters have it. I wasn't brought up by my Dad and my sisters live with him. It's not learned behaviour.
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Just because your family members all have it but were raised apart doesn't mean it isn't a learned behavior. You all likely have a pre-dispostion towards anxiety but the manifestion of a social phobia was not something that was destined to happen. It was a combination of the genetic predispostion and the circumstances of your life. If you had never had the environmental factors that contributed to it, you may have never developed it. Same goes for me and everyone else on here. It's not a learned behavior in the sense that it was taught to you but it is in that you learned that avoiding certain social situations reduced and anxiety, and were thus reinforcing to you. However, you may have developed some other phobia or a generalized anxiety without building the confidence in yourself and a worldview that says the world is a safe place. This at least what the current understanding of psychology says.
 
IntheLabyrinth

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WishingICould said:
How do you know it isn't forever? Are you an expert? Do you suffer from SA? If you actually LISTENED you'd realise that people ARE helping themselves and getting treatment, therapy, whatever but sometimes it doesn't help. You're really starting to get on my nerves with your patronising, copy and pasted posts.
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I agree! Enough already, please. I thought I made that clear a couple of posts ago. We heard your positive message and we are all on the road to recovery now. Grerat job!
 
WishingICould

WishingICould

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My sisters had a completly different upbringing yet we all have the same fears when it comes to socialising. I still personally believe it is genetic.
 
Section_31

Section_31

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kyle said:
It's not learned behaviour. At least not in my family. It's so genetic, it's not even funny. It seems to be worse for children under 8. Some in my family grow out of it, some don't.
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I think it can be both learned and genetic...In my case id say it was more learned and aqquired. In my wifes case, its most definately inherited, as theres a huge history of ppl in her family being "flighty" going back well over 4 generations on both sides. Therapy there hasnt helped anyone, its too severe.

I think it can easily be one, the other, or both. Just depending on circumstances.

My mothers issues are very present in me, which is why im on medication to manage it. I can at least live a semblence of a normal life.
 
Section_31

Section_31

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kc1296426 said:
I just want people to know that isn't forever and it doesn't have to be something that has to affect your life negatively, just like depression. That's why there's mental health help to help you out there. So what if it didn't work for years but you can always still try. There's always hope. I'm sorry for your troubles though. Things do get better, especially if you keep trying. Just like alot of things in life. Be happy. Life is short, Do what makes you happy. I know you find a solution if it's still really bothering you, that's why they have help out there. Maybe you've done something wrong, be self-aware sometimes and admit mistakes. If not, then keep trying and put your best foot forward and try it all. There's nothing wrong with that at all.




Of course sometimes it's not as simple as you'd like. And you're right, for some people it might take longer than others. But don't put yourself down like that. It doesn't have to take years, only if you let it. (or if there are other circumstances, I don't know your personal ones, but that's just assuming if your schedule is flexible and you are open-minded and dedicated and positive and knowing that people overcome this and that you can too)

Sorry if I dis-respected you
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I took no disrespect. And im not putting myself down at all. Im just a realist and see things as they are. Its not pessimism. Instead of overcoming i incorporate it into my life and see it for what it is. Embracing it and making it a part of me if anything has been a much better method than trying to conquer it. At times it can also be a source of strength if channeled into the right area.

Im not certain where your getting this idea that it wont take years for many....therapists several over have warned me that behaviours like this can take a minimum of a year to decades before you begin to feel any differently or notice any change...Im not trying to be fighty or argue, im just saying...

Im absolutely openminded in this regard....but honestly i just dont feel what your laying down man. Sorry. Just life experience says otherwise.
 
IntheLabyrinth

IntheLabyrinth

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This isn't meant to be an arguement but if it was purely genetic for some people, wouldn't that meant that therapy would never help one get rid of it?
 
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