Who is calling anyone unenlightened? And who is doing evil things? I certainly am not, so I'm not sure what you are trying to say? What I don't get for certain, is why you are referring to me as "new age". I'm not even sure what that is, exactly, I'm a Hindu, which is about as "old age" as you can get lol! I suppose if you didn't know what you were talking about though, it would make sense that you automatically assume the age old practice of tantra is "new agey".
"it's natural for a good girl to seek a bad boy" I don't believe I ever said that. So why would you put that in quotes? That's called making stuff up, and I don't quite appreciate that. I was explaining, since you seem to be so sure (as evidenced by many of your posts), a possible reason for this bad boy/good girl thing. I'm guessing (once again based on your posts) that you've actually seen this happen, and did not just pull that stereotype out of thin air.
"No person should IN REALITY look for a "bad boy" but people have come to believe that this is attractive in THIS SOCIETY." I would say that people have come to believe in many different forms of attractiveness in this society. We have some ways to go, but you see much more diversity in the "attractive" people the media spotlights these days. We have rockers, poets, pop stars, artists, jocks, etc. all in the same magazines as the "it boys". Same goes for girls, you have Kat Von D to Carrie Underwood and everything in between. Would you say Steve Carrell or James Blunt is a "bad boy"? I'd hope not, but a LOT of women find them sexy.
Like I've written before, I think the issue is a lot more complex than you make it seem. First off, not many girls are seeking long term relationships from the "edgier" boys. If anything, they're looking for a one night stand. Because they look to be what a girl would want for a one night stand, a good time. But isn't that the same for boys too? Usually the boys that are going for the girl in a micro-miniskirt and halter are looking for a good time as well. Couldn't you say they're going for the "bad girl"? Its not mind control, lol, its something called a sex drive. And that's just natural. You can't say that thinking a guy is sexy because they are physically fit and takes care of their appearance is wrong. That's like saying that thinking a girl that has a nice figure and is dressed well looks hot is atrocious. Of course if that guy happens to be a jerk, or the girl happens to have a nasty personality, the majority of people will walk away from that. You can't say that the tiny minority of girls who actually goes for jerky guys is the norm. That's like saying the tiny minority of guys who go for cruel women is the usual. We both know that's not true.
"Bad boys" and "bad girls" these days usually doesn't mean "criminal" or "brute", anyway. The majority of the time it means "edgy" or "daring". Which is definitely what people look for when they just want a quick fling. When people (and I mean boys AND girls) are looking for relationships they tend to look for stable, honest, caring people. The problem is, some people are good at acting, and most of the times (with violent situations), the person who a girl/guy thought was "caring" and "sweet" turns out to be a total dirtbag. That's a COMPLETELY different situation than girls going out choosing dirtbags for boyfriends though!
I also don't agree with your constant use of the term "bad boy" btw. I don't understand what it is supposed to imply, its entirely vague and very stereotypical. From your posts, it seems that your idea of a "bad boy" could be anywhere from a seasoned criminal to just your regular run of the mill muscular guy. Also I find your concept of women to be pretty condescending as well. From your posts you have made us out to be anything from cruel and heartless, to mindless drones who just go out to clubs to find men who abuse them. The only reason I even include the words "bad boy" in my posts is because you CONSTANTLY use it. I don't believe in much "bad" and "good" as it is. I believe in balance, really, balance, tolerance, and respect. But perhaps that's just the "new agey"-ness in me, lol.
Then again, as someone who has been labeled a "bad girl" herself, many times over, maybe I am just a little turned off by labels. My personal opinion is that labels are made for items, not for people. People (even the "bad boys" LOL) are much more complicated than labels and BROAD generaliizations.
Btw, you can fall of a cliff and survive. I know a girl that goes to the same physical therapy clinic as myself that did. Life isn't too easy for her, but she is alive. People survive the impossible all the time, watch the discovery channel for an hour if you don't believe me LOL. Hell, they told me my knees were shot and I wouldn't be walking for too much longer. Today me and my husband went for a nature hike. And I'm 8 months pregnant to boot! I don't put too much stock in black and white, color is just too pretty to leave out!
Once again, just relax... life, relationships, experiences, they can all be such beautiful things if you let them. :-D